Sorry that the phone calls and visits weren't great I had those sort of difficulties with my mum before she went into the care home. She'd phone me up and accuse me of leaving without saying goodbye when I hadn't been there at all, or totally forget that I had been there, when I phoned to say I was home safely.
When I could visit, although mum would refer to me as her 'daughter', I think she forgot what that actually meant, as she'd ask after my mum and sister. I don't have a sister, but mum did, so I sometimes wondered if she thought I was her. We do look quite similar.
Hope next week's calls and visit are better. There's been nothing from mum's home about indoor visits yet, and I'm not going to bother with window ones.