1. Bikerbeth

    Bikerbeth Registered User

    Feb 11, 2019
    170
    Bedford
    Hopefully a small positive step forward today. Had the step by step coordinator come round to Mum today and after chatting with Mum, Mum has agreed with some hesitation to meet a companion volunteer. Fingers and toes crossed that this works out so she has more social contact.
     
  2. rainbowcat

    rainbowcat Registered User

    Oct 14, 2015
    111
    Female
    #82 rainbowcat, Aug 13, 2019
    Last edited: Aug 13, 2019
    Indeed! My father often eats 4 desserts. He phoned me today to moan that I had only ordered ONE packet of custard creams with his Tesco delivery, and that he will have eaten them in a day, so what's he "supposed to eat after that?!?!? ehhh?!? EH?!?!?!"

    (doesn't matter that there's choc digestives, malted milk, jaffa cakes, and oreos all in his kitchen...as well as choc buttons, aero-type bars, thin cadbury choc bars...etc!)


    AND ... (edited to add) my Dad used to LOVE raspberry things, anything with raspberry flavour he wanted, DOESN'T like strawberry unless REAL ones. Fast forward to about a month ago, Dad moaned at me that he HATES raspberry and wishes I'd stop buying it for him, and that I NEVER buy him strawberry things and wishes that I would listen to him.
     
  3. rainbowcat

    rainbowcat Registered User

    Oct 14, 2015
    111
    Female
    My dad's the same! LOL! He sat and ate a pack of 4 Topic bars in the space of 30 mins before conking out in what must have been a blood sugar high, yet will only have "one prune" on his shreddies/porridge otherwise it's TOO SWEET! o_O
     
  4. Bikerbeth

    Bikerbeth Registered User

    Feb 11, 2019
    170
    Bedford
    Other people go through so much worse on this site but I am sad to say my little sports car (retirement present to myself) was part exchanged for a sensible small car today as Mum can no longer get in the sports car and with the increased mileage I am doing I need something more economical. Also having read on here PWD getting out of cars whilst been driven I think the child locks may be a benefit in the future.
     
  5. Baker17

    Baker17 Registered User

    Mar 9, 2016
    250
    I know how you feel because I had to change my sports car for a sensible option for the same reason as you, i nearly had to bundle my husband in one day so that’s when I decided it was time reluctantly to be sensible, maybe one day I’ll get another one
     
  6. Taddy

    Taddy New member

    Aug 16, 2019
    2
    I'm a new member but just wanted to say I like that you posted you'd had a good day! That's great.
     
  7. Taddy

    Taddy New member

    Aug 16, 2019
    2
    I am lucky to live in part of the country that has extra care housing. These are individual flats , with a restaurant , lounge etc. but careers 24 hr. Mum has 4 visits a day - one to help her wash and get her breakfast, 1 to take her down to the restaurant for lunch, 1 for tea- time and 1 for medication just before bed. They are nearly always the same carers and she has built up a good relationship with them . The apartment block is a mix of over 60s - most of whom need no care yet, some have physical needs ( using zimmers etc) and a very few have dementia. Mum was mild when she was accepted ( which may be the case in yr mums case if she is managing with 2 care visits a week) so now would be the ideal time to look.. just thought it might be worth checking out before CH? I am now coming to realise that mum has taken another big dip in her dementia but She can still stay where she is ..
     
  8. Bikerbeth

    Bikerbeth Registered User

    Feb 11, 2019
    170
    Bedford
    Think positively ‘one day you will get that new sports car’. I must admit they did have the bright orange MX5 in the show room I would rather have had.....
     
  9. Bikerbeth

    Bikerbeth Registered User

    Feb 11, 2019
    170
    Bedford
    Welcome and Thank you. Mum is still early stages. After being the daughter and now turning into the Carer it is really nice when I see Mum as the person she is to others which I have never seen before.
     
  10. Bikerbeth

    Bikerbeth Registered User

    Feb 11, 2019
    170
    Bedford
    Hi again. Thank you for the suggestion. Yes we did look at extra care housing of the type you mentioned as there is an excellent one near us. However taking advise from the dementia nurse there, the feeling was it was too late now as it could mean 2 changes of residence quite close together. Glad to hear that your Mum is able to stay where she is despite the dip in her dementia. I know there was another lady on here whose Mum was able to stay in extra care housing for a long time
     
  11. Rosserk

    Rosserk Registered User

    Jul 9, 2019
    86
    My mum hides things as well and too! She is always saying there are people in her room and that they have taken all her things. She thinks I’m mad because I don’t see these people who come and go.she will wrap things up in pieces of paper and writs on them, mums do not touch! She’s angry all the time about these mysterious visitors!
     
  12. Baker17

    Baker17 Registered User

    Mar 9, 2016
    250
    Ha ha I must practice positive vibes
     
  13. Bikerbeth

    Bikerbeth Registered User

    Feb 11, 2019
    170
    Bedford
    Not good if your Mum is getting angry. Is it worth a trip to the GP about it unless you have already done so.
    Mum wraps everything up in plastic bags with elastic bands round them and usually a bit of kitchen towel for good measure.
     
  14. Bikerbeth

    Bikerbeth Registered User

    Feb 11, 2019
    170
    Bedford
    Mum was very confused regarding the day and time when I rang this afternoon. More so than normal. :(
     
  15. Rosserk

    Rosserk Registered User

    Jul 9, 2019
    86
    I feel like I’m banging my head against a brick wall! Her Doctor, social services and the mental health team have done absolutely nothing.

    My mum lives with us and I’m finding it really difficult to cope with. It’s impossible to engage with her because she is so aggressive so I leave the room if she comes in and avoid talking to her. For example if I say do you want a biscuit she will bark back with ‘stop shouting at me’! Then I feel incredibly guilty for not talking to her but no matter what I say she is combative. She has always enjoyed the peace and quiet and her own company so spends a lot of time in her room and I just leave her to it because that’s her routine. They say a persons worst traits are exaggerated with dementia and that’s certainly true with my mother, she’s extremely difficult to like. Every day is filled with nastiness and I’m permanently sad.

    My mums dementia progressed rapidly and she has good and bad days. I expect your mum does too, hopefully she will be better the next time you call.
     
  16. Bikerbeth

    Bikerbeth Registered User

    Feb 11, 2019
    170
    Bedford
    There does seem to be lots of people like yourself who are constantly banging your head on a brick wall with GP’s etc and a few that obtain exceptional help. I have so much respect for those on here who are full time carers.
     
  17. Sam Luvit

    Sam Luvit Registered User

    Oct 19, 2016
    5,484
    East Sussex
    Trust me ... sales of CM went up and up while I was caring for my mum ... they have dropped considerably now :rolleyes:
     
  18. Rosserk

    Rosserk Registered User

    Jul 9, 2019
    86
    CM?
     
  19. Sam Luvit

    Sam Luvit Registered User

    Oct 19, 2016
    5,484
    East Sussex
    Captain Morgan Rum :oops:
     
  20. Rosserk

    Rosserk Registered User

    Jul 9, 2019
    86

    Lol!! Hilarious. I’m hammering the vodka!
     

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