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Sugar in her coffee

Sarasa

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Apr 13, 2018
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When we lived in our previous house, we had a bigger garden with a pond. It was also near a park with a large lake. One day my husband opened the door to a couple of small girls that lived nearby. They had a bucket of toadlets and were trying to sell them for 5p a pop. My husband bought them all for £5.00, and we had useful(ish) toads in the garden ever afterwards, although never that many. When he sold the house the new owner had a wobble about the pond as her daughter had a phobia about frogs. I could honestly say I'd never seen a frog, I just didn't mention toads.
 

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
1,709
Bedford
When we lived in our previous house, we had a bigger garden with a pond. It was also near a park with a large lake. One day my husband opened the door to a couple of small girls that lived nearby. They had a bucket of toadlets and were trying to sell them for 5p a pop. My husband bought them all for £5.00, and we had useful(ish) toads in the garden ever afterwards, although never that many. When he sold the house the new owner had a wobble about the pond as her daughter had a phobia about frogs. I could honestly say I'd never seen a frog, I just didn't mention toads.
:D
 

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
1,709
Bedford
I rang the CH up today and spoke to the part time young receptionist. She has always liked my Mum and Mum seems to like her too. She told me when she is working and she can, she always finds my Mum and they get a coffee from the ‘cafe bit’ behind reception and then they have a natter together. Mum of course likes this because then she thinks she is working.
Mum said she had enjoyed the singer they had the other day and he was very good. He stands in the garden and the residents remain inside. From the photo I saw though you would never had known she had enjoyed the performance as her arms were crossed and no sign of a smile. She was a bit off with me today (not sure if it is because I have not visited and she thinks I don’t want to see her) but we had a short 10 minute natter and she did mention ‘puppy’ had gone missing. As the call finished Mum asked me if I wanted to speak to my friend (receptionist) so I said Yes please and asked receptionist if she could have a look for the puppy. She really is lovely as she went and had a look and rang me back later to say ‘puppy’ was safe and snuggled up in Mum’s clothes drawer.
OH had chat with Dr - been sent for blood tests but could possibly be gall stones.
Had a busy day doing lots of odds and ends.
 

annielou

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Sep 27, 2019
1,767
Yorkshire
Sounds like a good chat apart from her being a bit off with you. I hope next time you ring she is over whatever it was. It's lovely that receptionist and your mum get on so well and receptionist makes extra effort to find mum. Glad to hear the puppy hadn't gone missing and was safe in the drawer.
I hope your OH is seen soon and finds out what is causing problems 🤞
 

Woo2

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Apr 30, 2019
2,980
South East
Good to hear oh had blood tests and can maybe start to get to the bottom of it soon 🤞

How nice of receptionist , there are some kind people that will go over and above , glad puppy is safe and warm:).
 

LHS

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Oct 5, 2018
72
My mum started hugging me when i arrived and left her house - she was never a huggy person previously!
 

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
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Bedford
Went to Mum’s bungalow to get rid of the worst of the weeds and also give estate agent access. The clay soil in Mum’s garden is so bad (despite it being dug over and compost etc added) that I had to water the weeds to get them out :rolleyes:
Whilst I was there I got a phone call from CH - was it ok if they tested Mum so I said Yes. All staff and residents were being tested so I guess a mobile unit was being used.
I later got a text from brother asking me to ring Mum as she had been told I was dead. He had not been able to convince her otherwise. So I rang and spoke to Mum but to be honest she was all over the place. Even when I told her I was fine she said she was not sure I was me as she could not see me on the phone - (I thought of you @annielou) she sounded very suspicious so maybe a UTI on the way again. She wanted me to send a card (photo? ) to prove I was who I said I was on the phone. It could also be a bit of manipulation so I go and visit. We will see what happens when I ring tomorrow. I will see if I can have another window visit next week.
 

Woo2

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Apr 30, 2019
2,980
South East
Oh that is difficult to hear @Bikerbeth , hopefully that thought will pass quickly and not leave her disturbed .
The weed removal sounds fun ! Hubby strimmed Mums when we sold her bungalow , the clearing of the actual place wasn’t so bad but then I have most of it in my loft ! It took me ages to box up as I would find something and it invoked memories . Hope you can get it sold /rented quickly and smoothly . We looked at renting as we really wanted to be able to keep the bungalow but it ultimately was more hassle with tax returns and rewiring/ safety certificates etc so we sold it . Hope mr @Bikerbeth is feeling better 🤞
 

annielou

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Sep 27, 2019
1,767
Yorkshire
Not a good call yesterday, thats such a shame as last few have been bit better. Not nice that your mum thought you were dead and wasn’t sure it was you on the phone 🤗 I hope todays is better when you call and hope you get to do another visit soon too 🤞
 

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
1,709
Bedford
I know I am not the first and I won’t be the last but today hurt. Today is my birthday and Mum is totally unaware. Last year she managed to write me a card and remember the date within a few days. So feeling rather sad😞 however I am glad I kept the card from last year.
 

Sarasa

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Apr 13, 2018
2,019
Happy Birthday @Bikerbeth. I feel a bit the same. My wrote a card for me last year weeks before my actual birthday, but by the time my birthday had arrived she'd totally forgotten it. She'd been struggling for a couple of years before that with trying to remember my brother's birthday, and now she obviously doesn't remember mine at all either.
I hope you managed to have a good day despite the lockdown. Mine was three weeks ago and we should have been going to my favourite local restaurant. We managed a good time at home instead.
 

Woo2

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Apr 30, 2019
2,980
South East
Happy Birthday 🥳🎂🍷🥂🍾 @Bikerbeth, yep can relate to that , last year it was 8 weeks after dad died and mum was completely unaware , hubby got her a card but he didn't know to help her and she didn’t write anything in it,sat home all day with her looking perplexed. This year will be much the same except no card from her as I don’t want to put her under pressure. Sending a big birthday hug🤗.
 

annielou

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Sep 27, 2019
1,767
Yorkshire
Aww big hugs 🤗🤗 @Bikerbeth that is sad. I’m sure your mum would be sorry if she knew. Blooming dementia 😤😞 its a pain in the bum and the heart x
My mum kept forgetting about my birthday in lead up to it last year and on day we were supposed be going out for day but mum was mixed up about why, thought she had a tummy upset, so we left after half hour, and it all went even more wrong after that and it turned into a horrid day. I had to remind her of my sisters birthday earlier this year and she doesn’t seem to have any idea mine is next month. I’m thinking of leaving it that way and hoping she doesn’t realise.
Its also a strange time to have birthdays with lockdown too isn’t it.so more hugs for that too 🤗🤗 I hope OH was feeling bit better and you had some good times today 🤞
Best birthday wishes from me 😘🎂🍸💐🏍 and virtual cake, cocktail, flowers and a virtual bike for bikerbeth
 

jugglingmum

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Jan 5, 2014
5,963
Chester
Happy birthday, sorry your mum forgot.

My mum isn't really able to understand the date now so hasn't remembered my birthday for a couple of years. I think I was aware she had got to that point so it didn't bother me too much.

I hope you managed an OK day despite lockdown.
 

Violeta

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May 31, 2020
11
Happy birthday @Bikerbeth 🥳 I´m sorry you felt sad that your mum didn´t remember. It is hard for sure. My mum hasn´t remembered my nor anyone else´s birthday on her own for a good couple of years now and when she had a lovely home carer, D, she was the one who used to organise cards and even presents for my little boy - a lovely lady.

Anyway, going back to change of habits, preferences etc. My mum´s been vegetarian for 30 years but one of the tale tell signs of her illness was her eating some chilli con carne that my dad had made in favour of her own veggie dish. And the care home tell me that she regularly eats ham salad sandwiches for lunch there 😅
 

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
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Bedford
Thank you all for your replies. I think it hurt on the basis that it showed how much further Mum has declined rather than sad for me if that makes sense.
I had a lovely long but hot walk, home made by OH banana cake, some gardening which I wanted to do and then a takeaway ‘Sunday Roast with the trimmings’

that is quite a dietary change @Violeta. I like a nice chilli but I will miss the ham salad!
 

Woo2

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Apr 30, 2019
2,980
South East
Sounds like you had a nice day ,banana cake and roast sound yum :p. It is like a reminder of just how far they have deteriorated for sure, I remember reading Mums cards and almost yearly seeing the spelling mistakes and then the scrawly writing and then missing words , it is painful . Glad you had an ok day though .🤗 X
 

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
1,709
Bedford
Had to go earlier but I did want to share something non Alzheimers that has been making the residents of our village smile. A mother and her 2 children have been putting a teddie display outside their house every day. Each day is a different theme- so teddies at the beach, window cleaning teddies etc. She decided with the schools going back today that today was the finale and she said any teddie in the village could participate ( appropriate measures being taken to ensure all are kept safe). . This was the result. Sorry not the best photo
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