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Sugar in her coffee

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
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Bedford
Had a lovely visit with Mum through the window. She did say she was a little concerned as the Dr had not been back to see her since she ended up in a car accident last week in Dudley, Birmingham which was not her fault. She had apparently broken both her legs but still had a long wait from teatime until 10.30pm until she was seen. She showed me her knee and said I would easily see how swollen it was (Mum has arthritis in her knee which has probably got worse as she is not walking as much)
Mum said she was glad I had come as she really didn’t like the biscuits they had there and perhaps we could pop to the shop next door to get some. I said it is ok I have brought you some fruity flapjack biscuits and choc/ginger biscuits as I know you like them. I also took her some Belgium buns in a cellophane wrapper and chocolates. Fortunately at that moment the Carer who took them at the front door brought them in (having wiped them down) And Mum had a big smile on her face which was so nice to see.
I had also quarantined the ‘toy puppy’ for the last 10 days so they also, having wiped the Outer box, allowed Mum to open it whilst I watched through the window. She looked a bit confused to start with and struggled with the packaging but once she got it open (with some encouragement) the smile went up to her eyes. I was so so pleased. I really do hope she continues to like it and doesn’t throw it at anyone as it does have a weight to it. So Success - hurrah.
Mum did get a little teary as I was saying goodbye (which hurts to see of course) but I promised to ring.
so I must have been there nearly 1.5 hours, she was confused and muddled at times and kept asking about the ‘boys’ and I still can’t work out who she is talking about. She did say she likes this room as she can see the garden and the train but she would like to live in a house with garden which would be more normal for what time she has left. However she was generally ok and cheerful.
So I am feeling lucky and thankful
 

annielou

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Sep 27, 2019
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Yorkshire
Oh bless that sounds a good visit and your distractions were great. Hope your mum continues to like the dog🤞 Sure she’ll enjoy the biscuits.
Its funny the ideas they have like your mums broken legs isn’t it. Glad she wasn’t distressed by it.
I imagine it’s always a bit sad to say bye, but sounds like a good visit and you left her with lovely presents to enjoy afterwards. Glad you had a good visit x
 

Woo2

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Apr 30, 2019
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South East
Yep an ok day here thank you 😌 No need for alcohol prop for last 2 days so that’s an improvement. I’m not an alcoholic honestly 🤣
 

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
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Bedford
So Friday was a good call with mum happily chattering away but nothing that made sense. No distress so I just let her talk. Brother sent me a text on Saturday to say he had spoken to Mum who had told him I was going abroad, that I had left some old cards which she had read to him and was worried about a note - his text had lots of ? in it. I thought welcome to my world.
with it being the bank holiday I guess the CH was short of staff as it took until 2.30pm to speak to Mum today Funny she remembered about the imaginary ‘coach accident she told me all about last Wednesday’ as Today she told me that she was in a hospital in Stoke on Trent today having seen the Dr but that she would have to go soon as she was waiting for the taxi to take her home. No mention of the Singer that had come and performed outside on the The Terrace for all the residents. On the video some of the others are up dancing or clapping their hands but Mum is just sat there with her arms folded tight.
had a phone call from her neighbour saying a roof tile had come off Mum’s bungalow in the windy weather. OH is poorly again with a stomach issue he had earlier in the year - at the time he had a scan and it was all clear and they were going to do further blood test etc but all stopped due to Covid 19
So not an awful weekend but not the best.
 

Woo2

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Apr 30, 2019
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Sorry to hear about oh, hope he feels better soon 🤞 maybe the gp would be able to arrange a blood test soon . Glad your chat with mum was ok ish . How are your veg doing ? Ours have gone mad the last few days , potato’s are just coming in to flower . Just been out on a snail and homeless slug hunt ... found about 10 ! Been launched in to wild area at the end of the garden . Hope a better week for you both .🤗 X
 

annielou

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Sep 27, 2019
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Yorkshire
Oh dear sorry you're weekend has been bad @Bikerbeth 🤗 Sounds like mum has had very mixed up few days but good she wasn't distressed. Its odd how they can remember a mixed up thing that didn't happen and hold on to that better than something that actually did, my mum does it and it amazes me.
The wind was dreadful at weekend, what a pain about mums roof, I hope getting someone out to look at it at moment won't be too much of a pain and there's not further damage. It's defo something you could do without.
Also hope hubbys stomach improves quickly 🤞 Have you been in touch with gp see if anywhere will do still do his blood tests at moment? Its such a pain that more or less everything else has been stopped because of virus. I keep hoping things will start up again where health service is concerned as things can't keep being postponed for ever can they. I hope things improve 🤞and 🤗
 

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
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Bedford
OH going to contact GP today and see what they say.
@Woo2 My spuds are doing well but not at flower stage yet - we planted earlier and mid. I have surrounded my broccoli with copper pipe which is meant to deter slugs and we had some lying around. Constant battle with aphids on gooseberries and strawberries.
Thanks @annielou - as you say it is funny how PWD can remember their false memories in detail better than their actual one.
🤗 To you both
 

Woo2

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Apr 30, 2019
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I have tried copper , got egg shell round the perimeter and I saw a snail crawling across it the other night :mad: Poured coffee grounds down last night , something has worked as there has been no nibbling for a couple of days . We was out there until midnight last night and collected umpteen homeless snails and 2 snails 😆. X
 

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
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Bedford
I have tried copper , got egg shell round the perimeter and I saw a snail crawling across it the other night :mad: Poured coffee grounds down last night , something has worked as there has been no nibbling for a couple of days . We was out there until midnight last night and collected umpteen homeless snails and 2 snails 😆. X
That is dedication......:D
 

Sarasa

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Apr 13, 2018
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Your mum's confabulations are wonderful @Bikerbeth. Isn't the brain an amazing and confusing thing. Not so good when she thinks you've gone abroad though.
My garden (well small paved back yard) is mainly ornamental. There is a very old fashioned green grocers near here, that has just re-opened selling plants, and I risked buying a lupin, never having had luck with them as they always get eaten. So far so good. What was interesting is that the owner is in his nineties and has dementia. His daughter who was doing the running of the place thought it was good for him to have something to do, and hoped that being outdoors and using social distancing would mean he (and her) would stay safe.
 

Woo2

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Apr 30, 2019
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Your mum's confabulations are wonderful @Bikerbeth. Isn't the brain an amazing and confusing thing. Not so good when she thinks you've gone abroad though.
My garden (well small paved back yard) is mainly ornamental. There is a very old fashioned green grocers near here, that has just re-opened selling plants, and I risked buying a lupin, never having had luck with them as they always get eaten. So far so good. What was interesting is that the owner is in his nineties and has dementia. His daughter who was doing the running of the place thought it was good for him to have something to do, and hoped that being outdoors and using social distancing would mean he (and her) would stay safe.
I didn’t know all this as it’s only this year being home I have got in to gardening , bought 3 hosta’s and Lupin’s , have cabbage, lettuces , broccoli , sprouts etc growing , all fodder for the garden critters , so far so good . They did attack 1 hosta so promptly moved it farther from vegetation and smothered it in eggshell and a pot with no rim, it’s recovered ok . I found a frog in the garden yesterday , hoped he would stay and eat them pesky things .
 

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
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Bedford
@Woo2. We created veg beds last year and planted spuds and onions, strawberries, raspberries, rhubarb and gooseberries. Spuds and onions did well. About 20 each of strawberries and raspberries. Birds got the gooseberries when we were away and it said not to pick rhubarb Year 1. So pretty much beginners at this. We did however try and reorganise down the bottom of the garden and disturbed 2 toads but hopefully like they will like their new toad house under the water butts.
Will try and post a photo below as keeps duplicating here
 

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
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Bedford
Your mum's confabulations are wonderful @Bikerbeth. Isn't the brain an amazing and confusing thing. Not so good when she thinks you've gone abroad though.
My garden (well small paved back yard) is mainly ornamental. There is a very old fashioned green grocers near here, that has just re-opened selling plants, and I risked buying a lupin, never having had luck with them as they always get eaten. So far so good. What was interesting is that the owner is in his nineties and has dementia. His daughter who was doing the running of the place thought it was good for him to have something to do, and hoped that being outdoors and using social distancing would mean he (and her) would stay safe.
That sounds a lovely idea. I hope it works out for them. Good luck with the lupin.
I do wonder where Mum does get her tales from. She was always a very practical person and not really creative. If she is not distressed by them I have just decided to go along with whatever she is chattering about. i know sometimes they let her sit with the receptionist at the desk. I will then get comments based on notes on the desk. So the other day I rang and my name and number were written down but just above it I am guessing that ‘someone’ had left as it said ‘permanently gone’. So when Mum was talking to me from the reception desk she said she was surprised I was on the phone as her note said I was Permanently Gone. So actually gone abroad might be better :rolleyes:. The brain is indeed an amazing and confusing organ