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Sugar in her coffee

Sam Luvit

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Oct 19, 2016
5,951
East Sussex
I don’t know where you could get them right now, maybe on line, but ...I’ve been to a few people who have soft cuddly cushions with a photo printed on them ... grandchild, children, spouse. It could maybe be an alternative to a cuddly toy
 

Sarasa

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Apr 13, 2018
1,482
I ordered one of those cushions for mum. Not sure if it ever arrived, as the home hasn't mentioned it and I forgot to ask when they phoned on Saturday to say she had received the flowers and teddy bear I'd sent in.
 

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
1,397
Bedford
So I had a reasonable conversation with Mum this morning :). We managed to decide that I would write birthday cards from both of us for family members that have birthdays in May as she could not get to the shops at the moment. She seemed happy that I was going to arrange it all but a bit disappointed that she could not sign them (previously I would write them but Mum would add her name or grandma etc). she did say nobody had spoken to her recently but when I mentioned my brother’s name and an old friend of hers she then remembered she had chatted to them. Then she went into a story about how they had all been out to the Catholic Church but the service was rubbish and onto the fact that she was going to go out to the shops this afternoon as the biscuits served at the hospital were too hard and a horrible brown colour. Fortunately at this point she said someone else needed the phone so she would have to go. It seemed like a good time to end the call.
Popping up to her house tomorrow to check that everything is ok and pick up a few of her summer clothes.
@Sarasa and @Sam Luvit - when Mum first moved into the home I brought her a really soft to the touch cushion with a hare on it. She really seems to like that as it stays next to her pillows. I have not taken the Kings Charles breathing puppy ‘toy’ to her yet as I haven’t been to the shops since it arrived and it needs a ‘D’ battery. Why don’t they warn you - ok I didn’t check properly I just assumed it would be double ‘A’s’.
Hopefully after I have faced the shops again I will be able to pop it over to her next week and the clothes.
 

Woo2

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Apr 30, 2019
2,199
South East
Glad you had a better conversation today 👍 , isn’t it frustrating that they don’t make it abundantly clear it needs a special battery . Hope mum likes it , and all ok at her place tom.
 

annielou

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Sep 27, 2019
1,395
Yorkshire
Nice to read you had a better call with your mum today x Even with the talk about trips out she sounds a little bit more relaxed and with it today. Hope you have a good trip over to mums house and everything is ok x
 

Sarasa

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Apr 13, 2018
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Glad you had a better call, and that your mum did remember that other people had called when prompted.
I hope the visit to her house goes well. I haven't been anywhere further than were I can walk to since the 14th March. I'm getting to know my local area really well.
 

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
1,397
Bedford
Thankfully all was good at Mum’s bungalow. Inside was a bit dusty and the garden covered in weeds but I will go back in a fortnight, meet an estate agent and spend the day tidying the garden.
 

Sarasa

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Apr 13, 2018
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Good everything was Ok. I found sorting out mum's flat very odd. It's not quite like she had died, but I was sorting out all her things as though she had. Hope the estate agent's visits are positive. I think bungalows are always popular.
 

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
1,397
Bedford
Good everything was Ok. I found sorting out mum's flat very odd. It's not quite like she had died, but I was sorting out all her things as though she had. Hope the estate agent's visits are positive. I think bungalows are always popular.
It is indeed strange @Sarasa. I think I am now at the point where I know what is to keep, charity shop or throw but stuck because brother needs to be involved. To be honest I would prefer to sell, do the necessary with the contents so it would end that stage. Made harder as he would like to rent it out and thinks that might be feasible with top up from Mum’s savings to pay CH fees but forgets then who has the additional organisation.
 

jugglingmum

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Jan 5, 2014
5,815
Chester
I can't remember if you've gone through the issues with renting out but make sure you do your sums. There are many threads on here re renting and the general opinion is unless you are experienced at it it often isn't a good idea.

The net income from renting is taxable. There are costs such as buildings insurance annual gas check the inevitable repairs at change of tenancy to consider.

I assume you are asking estate agents about rental and sale figures.
 

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
1,397
Bedford
I can't remember if you've gone through the issues with renting out but make sure you do your sums. There are many threads on here re renting and the general opinion is unless you are experienced at it it often isn't a good idea.

The net income from renting is taxable. There are costs such as buildings insurance annual gas check the inevitable repairs at change of tenancy to consider.

I assume you are asking estate agents about rental and sale figures.
Thanks @jugglingmum for the caution. I have rented out another house previously (long story) and for this reason I really do not want to rent out Mum’s bungalow.I gave my brother a long list of potential pit falls even when fully managed and why I would prefer not to rent. He however wants to ‘check’ the numbers out and of course only sees the return on it vs putting it into an investments fund. I have made it clear that if that is the route he wants to go then he can deal with it including getting all the accounts together and then I will go through the numbers with him and the accountant.
Maybe he will listen to me for once.
 

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
1,397
Bedford
Never added a photo so I thought I would try to add some photos I took on our walk today.
I did not know what the blue flowers were until I did a bit of searching and found it was flax
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jugglingmum

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Jan 5, 2014
5,815
Chester
Well done on adding a photo

I've seen flax on and off for a while whilst out cycling. Think it was expected to replace oil seed rape but don't think I've seen it for a while, maybe cheshire climate isn't the right one for it.
 

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
1,397
Bedford
Felt a bit bad I did not speak to Mum for 3 days but it now appears if the activity coordinator cannot get hold of brother she rings me instead on his days. Today and yesterday she was muddled but generally o.k. She seemed pleased when I said I could come and see her through the window tomorrow. However typically she would say yes I understand you have to be outside and then the next minute she will say it will be nice to go for a walk up the road together. It will work out though as Mum did complain yesterday that the keys to the door that goes into the garden from her room had been removed. (Deliberate move to ensure she doesn’t come out) She also complained about them fixing the roof when she was in bed trying to sleep so I am not sure what that was all about.
Anyway feeling lucky that I will see her tomorrow when so many people can’t See their loved ones
 

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