Hi all Dad lives in an annex in our garden. He goes into respite later today for the first time. They came to see him and get his details on Friday and he seemed OK. By Friday evening he was shut in his bathroom, had pooed all over the floor. When my dh got him out to clean up he couldn't walk well then actually collapsed for the first time ever. Luckily I arrived home then and went across to help out. His legs weren't working well at all and he couldn't recognise me or speak remotely coherently. He rallied a little but tbh he's pretty bad anyway these last few months. Since then dads been very unsteady on his feet, and totally incoherent. Yesterday mornings carer called me to say he wouldn't get up and there's been more poo on the floor by his bed but he appeared clean (he was, it's very solid). He's mixed dementia with a history of a stroke and tia. I'm wondering if he's had another episode despite all the preventative medication. He has a psychiatry team annual appointment this morning so I'll see what they say. I'm also wondering if he's dehydrated or has a uti. He was assessed as needing only get one care visit per day a year ago - I used to pay for extra but it was a waste of time as they achieved nothing! Can I ask for a reassessment? Not sure what I'd ask them to do though as when I said I wanted more when he lived at home, they said me wanting someone to go and give him something to eat in the evening was a reassurance visit so not allowable under adult social care and to pay for meals on wheels. Just rambling really. It's all ifs and buts but the dark hours let the mind wander too much.