Thank you everyone for your lovely words of support , not only for my loss but throughout the months of her illness when I didn't know where to turn or what to do at times. I am learning to deal with the "ifs" and "maybe's" of the past few years, the things that could have been done differently - the hindsight that all of us on this site are all too familiar with.
With the support of my wonderful family we managed to arrange a beautiful funeral, the sun shone all day and it brought so many family members and friends together again. She would have loved it, always liked a good family get together and a drink or two. I know my mother is at last at peace, there are no lingering doubts about the decisions we made towards the end, we all know now that her time had come and she passed peacefully. The sadness I feel now is knowing how much I will miss seeing her, even though she didn't really know us for the last few month of her life - but I lost my mum a long time ago and I did most of my grieving then - nobody seems to really understand this, but I know most of you on this site will.
I now have to start the process of obtaining probate and executing her Will - she wanted me to do it but thinking maybe I should get a solicitor. See how it goes.
Thank you and bless you all.