My sister and I have just put our 85 y old mother into a care home. Such a shocking thing to have done and we both are guilt ridden.The dementia seemed to develop over a period of 5 weeks. The final straw was fire related, so she wasn't safe. We seem to be the only ones who hadn't noticed this a few months ago and now everyone is saying "oh yes, I had noticed a few things". We hadn't at all. The phone calls were incessant, but plausible. The CH is lovely and staff are so kind and no doubt that we are lucky there. She has been there two weeks now, and each time we visit, she wants to come home and live with us. So difficult to say no. It's not feasible for that to happen. she doesn't know where home is (after 2 weeks). How can that be, that she can forget something as significant as her home? She remembers the cat though! Sorry to ramble.I am feeling a little unsupported myself at the moment. Does the guilt go away?