Dad’s memory has got so poor that I have to accompany him on visits, be it the doctor or relatives or anywhere else. If someone asks him a question he either simply can’t remember or makes up an answer he thinks they’ll believe, often a long way from the truth. If he’s given instructions he’ll forget them in an instant – how do other people cope with these issues? The demands this has placed upon my time mean that I am not able to work anymore. Is there anyone else who can provide this support that he needs? It strikes me that the only way to know about his present state of health or lifestyle is to spend regular time with him –I doubt Social services would be able to do this. Should I just face up to the fact that whilst ever he is with us I am going to have to be his substitute memory or is there some support I could find somewhere that will enable me to get back into full-time employment?