Thats what it feels like.
Mum 74 with moderate Alzheimers and Dad 77 with cognitive impairment.
If the dementia journey wasn't enough, it's even harder having a Dad who has a hard time understanding it all. He has no coping skills or strategies, despite being given information, and having had a few visits from our Alzheimers Key Worker.
Mum & Dad live next to us, so yesterday before I went to work, I went to check on them, and Dad looked absolutely awful, and he was shaking his head.
Mum had her Alzheimers activity group that morning, and she gets quite anxious getting ready.
Wheres her bag,wheres her glasses, wheres her shoes, what if it rains, will she still be picked up, am I going to work, are my children at school, checking her calendar a dozen times which she can no longer make sense of.
Dad said he would be fine as soon as Mum left, plus he had his weekly visit to his club to go to.
I truly beleive before long Dad will have a heart attack or stroke. He's already on blood pressure tablets and taken up smoking again.
They seriously need some time apart, and Mum can no longer stay at my sisters ( fell getting in the bath last time). My sister won't consider respite as she does not beleive Mum is at a bad enough stage... mum would not go willingly... And then Mum is not bad enough that she would be assesed as needing residential care.
As said stuck in limbo
Mum 74 with moderate Alzheimers and Dad 77 with cognitive impairment.
If the dementia journey wasn't enough, it's even harder having a Dad who has a hard time understanding it all. He has no coping skills or strategies, despite being given information, and having had a few visits from our Alzheimers Key Worker.
Mum & Dad live next to us, so yesterday before I went to work, I went to check on them, and Dad looked absolutely awful, and he was shaking his head.
Mum had her Alzheimers activity group that morning, and she gets quite anxious getting ready.
Wheres her bag,wheres her glasses, wheres her shoes, what if it rains, will she still be picked up, am I going to work, are my children at school, checking her calendar a dozen times which she can no longer make sense of.
Dad said he would be fine as soon as Mum left, plus he had his weekly visit to his club to go to.
I truly beleive before long Dad will have a heart attack or stroke. He's already on blood pressure tablets and taken up smoking again.
They seriously need some time apart, and Mum can no longer stay at my sisters ( fell getting in the bath last time). My sister won't consider respite as she does not beleive Mum is at a bad enough stage... mum would not go willingly... And then Mum is not bad enough that she would be assesed as needing residential care.
As said stuck in limbo
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