Hi all, so glad to have someone to reach out to who can empathise although don't know if you can help me. I live in the Scottish borders and my mum and dad are in Dorset...so not local! Mum has been showing signs of dementia for a couple of years, short term memory loss, repetitive story telling, agitation, poor sleep etc but has also tried to cover herself, making excuses for repeating herself and so on. This has been coupled with extreme paranoia, grilling my Dad if he talks to anyone when she's not present, especially if he tries to talk to me on our own about his concerns. Poor Dad has no-one local to talk to. Anyway I visited them a few weeks ago and while Mum was in the bath he told me her symptoms have worsened (which I had seen myself) but when I tried to talk to her with him she accused Dad of being a traitor, said we were plotting behind her back, trying to put her in a home, asked dad if he wanted a divorce, denied she has any problems (apart from a disloyal family :-( ) refused to see her GP etc. I have returned home, I can't even speak to dad on the phone about how he is coping. Is there any way I can refer her or dad for an assessment/support at home ? Have any of you been in a similar position or do you have any suggestions? She obviously hasn't got a diagnosis but flatly refused to see their GP - Help please!