It's a really hard and heartbreaking situation to find yourself in. I cope by building nice things for me and Dad to look forward to into a fixed routine. Mid morning I sit down with him and enjoy a nice coffee and a bit of something that I have enjoyed making when I had some time. While he is having a nap, I have started relaxing for a while as well, within earshot, but doing something nice for me. The other thing I do is look forward to good deals that I have found online arriving in the post when I can afford it. That way, we go through the stressful stuff but are getting some relief too. I have only started relaxing more recently, thanks to advice on this lovely and informative Forum. It's definitely made a big difference. Oh yes, and if possible, I try to get some exercise, even if it is just running on the spot in front of the TV for a bit. That always helps to lift my mood. Xx