My mum was diagnose with mixed dementia recently and has commenced medication. She is nearly 80 and until relatively recently was a bilingual, active, interested and interesting woman.
She had a series of health issues - which I think were all interlinked, in light of this diagnosis - and she is now lovely, but vague on details, and has lost her filter to some extent.
My dad is 86 and is so frightened - not that he admits this - he hovers around her and doesn't let her do anything, and harries her in his worry and distress.
She gets cost with him as she is very definitely still okay on many levels, and their loving relationship has become rather strained.
Dad is limiting mum's interactions in his worry, and says he has no time to do anything because he has to know what she is doing - mum is in the relatively early stages of dementia but I fear that she will go downhill rapidly if his continues.
I also fear for my dad's health as he is disturbed in the night and he will only accept minimal help at home. We have organised a cleaner for their very clean home, and mum has two one hour visits from a local care organisation a week, which she really enjoys. Dad will not countenance more time out although he would benefit as well. He also refuses to have useful things like a milkman ( which would stop me having to take him 16 pints of milk to freeze!) or online shopping although he is entirely computer literate.
I work full time as a midwife and also do on calls ( and have a 98 year old MIL who falls regularly and has ongoing care needs). I have a daughter with some mental health issues and a husband who has recently retired, and tries to help but is a little bit clueless.
Does any one have any suggestions to stop me feeling like I am going to drown in a sea of worry?
Any any good ideas to help my lovely parents would be appreciated...
She had a series of health issues - which I think were all interlinked, in light of this diagnosis - and she is now lovely, but vague on details, and has lost her filter to some extent.
My dad is 86 and is so frightened - not that he admits this - he hovers around her and doesn't let her do anything, and harries her in his worry and distress.
She gets cost with him as she is very definitely still okay on many levels, and their loving relationship has become rather strained.
Dad is limiting mum's interactions in his worry, and says he has no time to do anything because he has to know what she is doing - mum is in the relatively early stages of dementia but I fear that she will go downhill rapidly if his continues.
I also fear for my dad's health as he is disturbed in the night and he will only accept minimal help at home. We have organised a cleaner for their very clean home, and mum has two one hour visits from a local care organisation a week, which she really enjoys. Dad will not countenance more time out although he would benefit as well. He also refuses to have useful things like a milkman ( which would stop me having to take him 16 pints of milk to freeze!) or online shopping although he is entirely computer literate.
I work full time as a midwife and also do on calls ( and have a 98 year old MIL who falls regularly and has ongoing care needs). I have a daughter with some mental health issues and a husband who has recently retired, and tries to help but is a little bit clueless.
Does any one have any suggestions to stop me feeling like I am going to drown in a sea of worry?
Any any good ideas to help my lovely parents would be appreciated...