Hi, I am new to the forum as not sure where to get advise. My Mum was diagnosed with dementia a couple of years ago, due to her wandering at night I moved in and work from home. Now it is getting hard to work as she is constantly asking to go home and for her Mum who died 20 years ago. I have asked others for help but My Sister just says she has too much work and My Mum's sister just makes excuses so have given up asking either of them. I do have carers come in a couple of hours week days so I can work which is a help.
My Mum is now at the stage where if she does not have someone sitting near her during the day she constantly asks where are you? I have tried to give her things to do but she is simply not interested and will just walk around if no one is with her - it is very draining!
I feel awful for complaining but I am struggling to be around her 24/7 with no break and rest of family leaving me to get on with it and am starting to resent the fact they have 'a life'. I do not want to put my Mum in a care home as the local ones are really not very nice but do not know what to do! Social Services have not been much help just saying she needs to go in a home if I cannot cope. I feel like I am in a lose/lose situation - if I carry on like I am I will have a breakdown but if I put Mum in a home I will forever feel guilty.
Has anyone else had a similar situation?
My Mum is now at the stage where if she does not have someone sitting near her during the day she constantly asks where are you? I have tried to give her things to do but she is simply not interested and will just walk around if no one is with her - it is very draining!
I feel awful for complaining but I am struggling to be around her 24/7 with no break and rest of family leaving me to get on with it and am starting to resent the fact they have 'a life'. I do not want to put my Mum in a care home as the local ones are really not very nice but do not know what to do! Social Services have not been much help just saying she needs to go in a home if I cannot cope. I feel like I am in a lose/lose situation - if I carry on like I am I will have a breakdown but if I put Mum in a home I will forever feel guilty.
Has anyone else had a similar situation?