Hello, sorry this may be long. My grandad has been showing dementia symptoms for about 3 years now. He is at the point now where he is often very confused, makes little sense and isn't very aware of his surroundings. He lives independently with my grandma, who is not in very good health either but mostly physical issues. My parents are my grandparents sole carers and are finding it incredibly difficult, last year my mum had open heart surgery so she is not in the greatest health and my dad suffers from depression. It has got so much for them they have gone away for 5 days and turned their phones off, leaving myself and my brother to care for them. I would love to help out more often as would my brother but we both work full time and are studying for degrees so are not around as much as we probably should be. My parents are both retired (early 60s) Today I have turned up and grandad is very badly confused, refusing to get out of bed, not aware of what's going on. My grandma was extremely stressed and upset and I believe she may be showing very early dementia symptoms now. Although it could just be the pressure of it all. She says that grandad hassles her in the night wanting sex but that he isn't aggressive to her. But I can tell she feels slightly uncomfortable around him and as much as she is devoted to him its too much for her to cope with along with the support (sometimes sporadic) she gets from my parents. I believe that my grandad needs to go into care or at least have a carer come into the home and help them out. To take some of the pressure off both my mum and grandma. My parents are not willing to acknowledge this as they are obviously finding it very hard to accept. I need to sit down and talk to them when they are back and offer them options as to what they can do next. But I need lots of help and advice in these areas as I don't know where to begin. I have spoken to my grandma and in an ideal world I think she would like to stay in their current home. I was wondering if getting a carer a couple of times a week would be enough or is it better to get them every morning? How much does this sort of thing cost. I also wondered about getting grandma a lock for her bedroom door to prevent her having to worry about him at night time as she says this is when he pesters her. Basically any advice hugely appreciated as I'm completely out of my depth.