So after getting a diagnosis of early onset Alzheimer's for my mum (63) at the end of last year, we had to sell up her house in France and move her back here. We rented the house next door to ours as it was the ideal solution know it couldn't be a permanent solution, 9 months later after forking out a lot more than her teachers pension covers on rent we ended the tenancy last week and she moved back in with us.
Part of this was a financial decision but also down to her not appearing to cope on her own even thought we fed and watered her pretty much all the time. We were indirectly recommend that she would have access to more care if we reduced her savings to under the £23k limit, we listened to this and bought a car and caravan so that we could all go on caravanning holidays which she used to love, this was a decision we thought long and hard about but felt it would be good for her and all of us as a family. This pretty much used up her savings on top of the costs of the day centre she's been going to, rent, bills and living costs of the last year. The other upside to buying a car meant that we dropped a finance payment so my wife could be drop her hours and be about for my mum much more. I should point out that the french housing market is terrible at the moment so we're not talking 100s of thousands of pounds here.
It feels like she's gone downhill much more in the last couple of weeks or maybe we just see it more. We've been trying to cope with hygiene issues and binning her underwear most days as the stains won't come out. For the second time in a week this morning she left out bathroom in a terrible state with excrement all over the toilet, floor and herself. She just doesn't seem bothered by it but eventually managed to get her to have another shower and cleaned everything up.
We were hoping to try and sort out some affordable sheltered accommodation at some point I'm starting to realise that she really needs something with more care even though I'm really against it.
Just worrying about all the financial decision we've made and now can't afford anything without council support, we can sell everything but seems like a bit of a waste. I just didn't think we'd be facing this so soon.
Part of this was a financial decision but also down to her not appearing to cope on her own even thought we fed and watered her pretty much all the time. We were indirectly recommend that she would have access to more care if we reduced her savings to under the £23k limit, we listened to this and bought a car and caravan so that we could all go on caravanning holidays which she used to love, this was a decision we thought long and hard about but felt it would be good for her and all of us as a family. This pretty much used up her savings on top of the costs of the day centre she's been going to, rent, bills and living costs of the last year. The other upside to buying a car meant that we dropped a finance payment so my wife could be drop her hours and be about for my mum much more. I should point out that the french housing market is terrible at the moment so we're not talking 100s of thousands of pounds here.
It feels like she's gone downhill much more in the last couple of weeks or maybe we just see it more. We've been trying to cope with hygiene issues and binning her underwear most days as the stains won't come out. For the second time in a week this morning she left out bathroom in a terrible state with excrement all over the toilet, floor and herself. She just doesn't seem bothered by it but eventually managed to get her to have another shower and cleaned everything up.
We were hoping to try and sort out some affordable sheltered accommodation at some point I'm starting to realise that she really needs something with more care even though I'm really against it.
Just worrying about all the financial decision we've made and now can't afford anything without council support, we can sell everything but seems like a bit of a waste. I just didn't think we'd be facing this so soon.