Im struggling too
Hi
My dad has recently come to live with us 4 weeks ago after his female partner kicked him out after 10 years. He has been diagnosed with vascular dementia and to be honest, I'm really struggling to cope with his moods, following me round and constantly changing his mind over things is soooo difficult to handle. I feel guilty because of the way I feel.
I totally understand how you feel, as I'm sure thousands of others do too.
If you feel anything like me, I would love a friend to chat to.
It's so hard living with him every day. He has had dementia for a couple of years, but has only been diagnosed 4 weeks ago. He has been kicked out by his lady friend of 10 years, with no reason. We presume it was because of the vascular dementia. He is devastated, as he doesn't know why the relationship ended, the 'lady' in question refuses to talk to him! My husband and I took dad in without question, but it has been a massive struggle to adapt, mainly because it's heartbreaking seeing him like this.
My dad constantly repeats things, asks the same questions over and over and follows us about the house... Bless him! (but it can get irritating). I have also been accused of stealing money (I took him to the bank to draw it out the day before and gave it to him in front of his lady friend). The next day day he could not remember it!
He has several serious health issues too, thankfully he now gets looked after properly by us, which he hadn't been previously.
This last week, dad seems to have gone down hill health wise and mentally, which is frightening. Dads’ breathing is worse, with a phlegmy chest. I wish I knew how long he has left. Seeing him suffer like this is eating me up inside, but I have to remain strong ...for dad ...and me. I love him so much! The only good thing about this situation is that I am getting close to my dad again after many years of just 'visiting a relative'. I know that he will probably end up in a care home, but I want to look after him for as long as possible, even with the problems it brings.
Kind regards
CallyDG