My husband was diagnosed Mixed Dementia and Alzheimers three years ago. He is still independent, reasonably active and drives a little, so we are lucky. People still say that they cannot tell there is anything wrong with him, he has always been quiet. He is not he man he was and I miss him. He now cant be trusted to do much on his own and I cant cope with doing everything myself and the chaos that he causes, which is getting steadily worse. Things on the floor, nothing put away, drawers, doors, cupboards all left open - looks like burglars have ransacked the place. Permanently losing things, moving things, important info goes missing, pin numbers forgotten, crises with computer, email no longer working, dried rice in the fridge, milk in the coffee cupboard. Plants and veg pulled up and weeds encouraged. Garage and shed doors locked 3 times whilst I am working in there.Doors unlocked at night, lights left on, windows left open. Communication problems, misunderstandings and forgetfulness. I am like the proverbial swan, paddling away beneath the serene surface, and close to total burn out already and I know there is a lot worse to come. The life is being sucked out of me and every day is like Groundhog day. Friends do not understand my situation and criticise me for 'always being busy' whilst they please themselves what they do all day. Just wanted to offload to people who understand!