The fundamental factor here, is that at 24 you have the very real and meaningful responsibility of caring for a family member with dementia. That alone constitutes a commitment which cannot be played with if one understands the nature and the implications of this disease. It sounds as if you are perhaps more aware of the situation than others? Whatever, you convey admirable qualities in embarking on this care when you have a life yet to lead. For those of us who have trodden the path of caring for a family member stricken with dementia, we know only too well that it can become a nightmare which has no escape due to the unpredictable nature of the disease. One can understand reluctance to have outside help/carers initially. But if and when the dementia evokes dramatic and frankly dangerous behaviour, then outside help will become not just a need, but a MUST! Assessment is a requisite at some stage In order to apply appropriate "best interests " care. However, by all accounts you are doing admirable work in looking after your grandparent, but you must be fair to yourself. 24 is a wonderful age and it comes just once. Don't succumb to the pressure of " you owe your elders" when the role of care might be shared and shared willingly.Hi,
I’m currently caring for my grandad in my family home where both my parents live. My grandad has dementia but has just moved into an isolated flat within our house and I’m his full time carer.
I’m really struggling to cope with everything at the moment as I’ve got a part time job to be able to afford to do things and pay rent and my hours this week for half term have been doubled and it’s causing loads of stress. My mum has a full time job but my dad is retired.
I’m really lucky to be getting some money from my grandad to be able to live on and function but I’m finding that because my hours have been increased this week my mum is holding this against me and blaming me and saying I’m not helping enough.
How do I cope with not only the emotional stress of caring but also a mother who expects too much and parents who do very little?