Hi
This is my first post. Wonder if anyone can offer some advice please. I'm struggling to supprt my 86 yr old mum who has lewy body dementia. Mum really wants to stay at home despite living alone. Her neurologist has also said that she is likely to do better at home as her familiar routines help her keep going. I live 45 minutes away haing finally found a bungalow which i had previously tried to convince mum to move to while she still had potenial to reestablish routines with me but she refused to move. I know spend 5 nights and 3 days with her trying to keep her engaged and active. Its wearing me out to the point where ive got pneumonia. The care agencies ive approached have all said they are person centred but appear to offer fixed services and time slots. Mums rreally settled since having someone around at night but slleeping nights shifts from agencies start at 10 finish at 7. Too late not to disturb her sleep a dnd too early to avoid having a personell change wjilst shs sleeping. Live in carer shifts seem to work for long minimum periods. How can i find care to allow me to continue and keep some familiarity but offer regular relif so i can get some days off 5o go to work and look after myself.
This is my first post. Wonder if anyone can offer some advice please. I'm struggling to supprt my 86 yr old mum who has lewy body dementia. Mum really wants to stay at home despite living alone. Her neurologist has also said that she is likely to do better at home as her familiar routines help her keep going. I live 45 minutes away haing finally found a bungalow which i had previously tried to convince mum to move to while she still had potenial to reestablish routines with me but she refused to move. I know spend 5 nights and 3 days with her trying to keep her engaged and active. Its wearing me out to the point where ive got pneumonia. The care agencies ive approached have all said they are person centred but appear to offer fixed services and time slots. Mums rreally settled since having someone around at night but slleeping nights shifts from agencies start at 10 finish at 7. Too late not to disturb her sleep a dnd too early to avoid having a personell change wjilst shs sleeping. Live in carer shifts seem to work for long minimum periods. How can i find care to allow me to continue and keep some familiarity but offer regular relif so i can get some days off 5o go to work and look after myself.