Hello I have never posted here before, but I do read the posts and find they are very helpful.
My mother is currently in hospital (she was diagnosed with AD 4 years ago) where her condition has been re-assessed. She is just 60, looks much younger than her age and has always had a younger outlook on life. She knows she has the condition and knows all our names. We have been advised she should go into a care home. We live in Westminster and there is a care home 20 minutes away that would be perfect for her as it for younger people with AD. Unfortunately there are no beds available for Westminster residents. There is a bed free but that is for the neighbouring borough. Instead we have been told there is only one care home about an hour away available to her. This is because of her age!! Care homes will not take people younger than 65 we have been told by her “care” manager plus he has also told us if we accept this place for her she may not be able to transfer out if a place becomes available at the place we feel she would most benefit. We are very fearful she will decline if we cannot visit her often. My parents have been married 39 years and have only been apart when she has been in hospital so it also very hard for my father not to be able to visit her as often as they would like. My father works full-time and is younger than my mother. Also the other home has mainly older residents and is not for clients with AD. We will be visiting the home very soon and I will post an update. We visit the care home with open mind.
The hospital have also said she needs to move from there as they need the bed so we are feeling very pressured.
We know she needs to leave there soon. We have also had many of her clothes and property taken while she has been staying there (2 pairs of trousers, 7 pairs of tights, 1 pair pyjamas, 6 pairs knickers, jumpers, small items and the list goes on) is this a common problem?. Money is very tight and we just cannot keep buying to replace items all the time but also my mother needs to have these items, so our credit cards bills just get higher.
There are many very good staff there, but also several that seem to think if something has gone missing it is nothing to do with them, why are you asking me attitude. Tonight when my father asked a nurse if my mothers hairbrush (her favourite labelled with her name) that had gone missing 2 days earlier had been found she said “what can I do about it”.
We feel we have to beg them to look in the other rooms even though several of the patient’s wander from room to room unsupervised taking things. When we first noticed the brush missing and asked a nurse she said “ we can’t look for it now we all have reports to write”. It might seem like just a brush or just a trousers etc to them but these items are familiar to my mother new items confuse her. Plus the fact someone has been going through her stuff and taking things is also very disturbing to her and us. It is causing us a lot of unnecessary stress, which is also affecting our health.
My mother is currently in hospital (she was diagnosed with AD 4 years ago) where her condition has been re-assessed. She is just 60, looks much younger than her age and has always had a younger outlook on life. She knows she has the condition and knows all our names. We have been advised she should go into a care home. We live in Westminster and there is a care home 20 minutes away that would be perfect for her as it for younger people with AD. Unfortunately there are no beds available for Westminster residents. There is a bed free but that is for the neighbouring borough. Instead we have been told there is only one care home about an hour away available to her. This is because of her age!! Care homes will not take people younger than 65 we have been told by her “care” manager plus he has also told us if we accept this place for her she may not be able to transfer out if a place becomes available at the place we feel she would most benefit. We are very fearful she will decline if we cannot visit her often. My parents have been married 39 years and have only been apart when she has been in hospital so it also very hard for my father not to be able to visit her as often as they would like. My father works full-time and is younger than my mother. Also the other home has mainly older residents and is not for clients with AD. We will be visiting the home very soon and I will post an update. We visit the care home with open mind.
The hospital have also said she needs to move from there as they need the bed so we are feeling very pressured.
We know she needs to leave there soon. We have also had many of her clothes and property taken while she has been staying there (2 pairs of trousers, 7 pairs of tights, 1 pair pyjamas, 6 pairs knickers, jumpers, small items and the list goes on) is this a common problem?. Money is very tight and we just cannot keep buying to replace items all the time but also my mother needs to have these items, so our credit cards bills just get higher.
There are many very good staff there, but also several that seem to think if something has gone missing it is nothing to do with them, why are you asking me attitude. Tonight when my father asked a nurse if my mothers hairbrush (her favourite labelled with her name) that had gone missing 2 days earlier had been found she said “what can I do about it”.
We feel we have to beg them to look in the other rooms even though several of the patient’s wander from room to room unsupervised taking things. When we first noticed the brush missing and asked a nurse she said “ we can’t look for it now we all have reports to write”. It might seem like just a brush or just a trousers etc to them but these items are familiar to my mother new items confuse her. Plus the fact someone has been going through her stuff and taking things is also very disturbing to her and us. It is causing us a lot of unnecessary stress, which is also affecting our health.
