My Mum lives alone, and I'm 2 hours away (and working). She relies on old habits to (just about) keep herself going, but has no short-term memory. Recently she has started to withdraw money almost every day from her building society account (they kindly keep her bank card for her as she long ago lost the ability to look after that). She keeps it in little bags and hides it. The next time she thinks she needs to go shopping, she calls in at the building society and withdraws another £20, £30 or £40. I have found some of her hiding places but might not always be able to - and this behaviour raises questions about her vulnerability.
Social services (in Kent) will not provide any carers even though my mother is prescribed Aricept, was temporarily admitted to a care home her for her own safety last year and has had several episodes that involved police being called. I pay for a carer (from Attendance Allowance) to call in once a day to see that she has food and has taken meds, and despite knowing Mum does not want to accept help I have asked this carer to help her shop a couple of times a week and steer her away from the building society. But of course this leaves plenty of time for Mum to get money out when alone. I can't stop her taking money out as this will distress her - she is convinced she has none and will panic, but I don't think we can continue too long like this. What can I do?
Social services (in Kent) will not provide any carers even though my mother is prescribed Aricept, was temporarily admitted to a care home her for her own safety last year and has had several episodes that involved police being called. I pay for a carer (from Attendance Allowance) to call in once a day to see that she has food and has taken meds, and despite knowing Mum does not want to accept help I have asked this carer to help her shop a couple of times a week and steer her away from the building society. But of course this leaves plenty of time for Mum to get money out when alone. I can't stop her taking money out as this will distress her - she is convinced she has none and will panic, but I don't think we can continue too long like this. What can I do?
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