Hi All
Not been on a while as everything is pretty much the same with Dad.
Got a visit from Social Services today - they haven't shown their faces in about 18 months.
One of my wonderful neighbours has phoned anonymously to tell them they are concerned because my Dad goes to the cemetery too many times a day (they think sometimes 10..) which is ridiculous, but he does go 3 or maybe 4 times.
They also said they had heard me and my daughter raise our voice to him (he is deaf as well as having Alzeimers).
What do these people think it is like living with someone with this disease?
Do they think we should cage them up and not let them out? Dad has a GPS tracker and he hasn't (thankfully) ever got lost.
Do they think it is possible to ask someone to do something 20 times with them looking at you blankely without ever raising your voice?
Whoever they are (and it can only be one of about 6 houses) doesn't know anything about the measures in place (trackers, carers, day centres, me/husband working from home on various days a week).
I am so fuming. I feel like I want to write a long letter describing what life is like, and how it is so important to try keep Dad out of the care system until the point where we no longer can cope and shove it in every door.
Grrrrrrrrrrrrr they obviously think that he needs locking up and shouldn't be on the streets... walking to the cemetery to visit my dead Mum who we lost 3 years ago (Dad thinks she died about 8 weeks ago, hence him still locked in grief visiting the grave so much).
What would you do... write a letter and shove it in all doors entitled 'if you were the one that rang social services'... or just leave it?
Social services have no issue and think we are doing as sterling job with Dad.
Thanks.
Beverley
Not been on a while as everything is pretty much the same with Dad.
Got a visit from Social Services today - they haven't shown their faces in about 18 months.
One of my wonderful neighbours has phoned anonymously to tell them they are concerned because my Dad goes to the cemetery too many times a day (they think sometimes 10..) which is ridiculous, but he does go 3 or maybe 4 times.
They also said they had heard me and my daughter raise our voice to him (he is deaf as well as having Alzeimers).
What do these people think it is like living with someone with this disease?
Do they think we should cage them up and not let them out? Dad has a GPS tracker and he hasn't (thankfully) ever got lost.
Do they think it is possible to ask someone to do something 20 times with them looking at you blankely without ever raising your voice?
Whoever they are (and it can only be one of about 6 houses) doesn't know anything about the measures in place (trackers, carers, day centres, me/husband working from home on various days a week).
I am so fuming. I feel like I want to write a long letter describing what life is like, and how it is so important to try keep Dad out of the care system until the point where we no longer can cope and shove it in every door.
Grrrrrrrrrrrrr they obviously think that he needs locking up and shouldn't be on the streets... walking to the cemetery to visit my dead Mum who we lost 3 years ago (Dad thinks she died about 8 weeks ago, hence him still locked in grief visiting the grave so much).
What would you do... write a letter and shove it in all doors entitled 'if you were the one that rang social services'... or just leave it?
Social services have no issue and think we are doing as sterling job with Dad.
Thanks.
Beverley