Hi
The other day I had pretty much decided that the time was right for a care home. My dad is great in the day but does not sleep at night and is complelled to leave the house. The CPN told me we had come to the end of the road trying medication so my husband persuaded me to look at care homes.
I have his name down for 2 homes. I am note sure when a place will come up, but the guess in both is Dec/Jan time maybe.
I am now dithering again - my dad has been really good all weekend- only woke once on both Friday and Saturday. Although back to 7 and 10 times the last 2 nights.
The carer I had doing 3 nights, has said he will go up to 5 nights- so the work load will be a lot less for me.
BUT the short fall between my dad's incoming and outgoings are about £300 a week once all carers are paid. So about £1200. LA wont pay anything as he has a private pension and they think he only needs 7 hours care a week or 24/7 care- nothing inbetween!!!
My dad has no savings as such but he does have a £3000/£4000 in his current account that would cover a few months.
As mentioned before he has a house to sell when he does go into a care home.
I have about £10,000 in a savings account my mum and dad gave me years ago (well before he had AD). He gave me the money to take the kids to Florida. At the time I felt they were too young and then since he was diagnosed we couldn't go away for more than a few days due to caring responsibilities. so basically the money is still sat there - I am thinking that would buy him another 6 months at home with night carers.
What would you do?
Other information is both husband and I both work with reasonable pay and could probably save up to take kids to Florida in the future although it would take us years.
Also to add more to the dither - mum is in a NH (we currently pay a £200 a month top up)- and when dad goes into care home she goes self funding so the gap that the house would have to pay for and income would be more like £700 a week so nearly £3000 a month!!!!
Sorry to waffle.
The other day I had pretty much decided that the time was right for a care home. My dad is great in the day but does not sleep at night and is complelled to leave the house. The CPN told me we had come to the end of the road trying medication so my husband persuaded me to look at care homes.
I have his name down for 2 homes. I am note sure when a place will come up, but the guess in both is Dec/Jan time maybe.
I am now dithering again - my dad has been really good all weekend- only woke once on both Friday and Saturday. Although back to 7 and 10 times the last 2 nights.
The carer I had doing 3 nights, has said he will go up to 5 nights- so the work load will be a lot less for me.
BUT the short fall between my dad's incoming and outgoings are about £300 a week once all carers are paid. So about £1200. LA wont pay anything as he has a private pension and they think he only needs 7 hours care a week or 24/7 care- nothing inbetween!!!
My dad has no savings as such but he does have a £3000/£4000 in his current account that would cover a few months.
As mentioned before he has a house to sell when he does go into a care home.
I have about £10,000 in a savings account my mum and dad gave me years ago (well before he had AD). He gave me the money to take the kids to Florida. At the time I felt they were too young and then since he was diagnosed we couldn't go away for more than a few days due to caring responsibilities. so basically the money is still sat there - I am thinking that would buy him another 6 months at home with night carers.
What would you do?
Other information is both husband and I both work with reasonable pay and could probably save up to take kids to Florida in the future although it would take us years.
Also to add more to the dither - mum is in a NH (we currently pay a £200 a month top up)- and when dad goes into care home she goes self funding so the gap that the house would have to pay for and income would be more like £700 a week so nearly £3000 a month!!!!
Sorry to waffle.
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