I recall when my mother died nearly 19 months ago, not thinking about loss or grief until a year had passed and then for a very different reason. I took the opportunity to see a counselor for 5 weeks when the chance presented itself and thought just talking would help. Now another 7 months on, I'm wondering if that is still true. I find myself coping well except at times of loneliness and fatigue, then all my negative thoughts come to me in one go and I blame them on losing my mother. The question that enters my mind tonight is "is there a right way to go when you lose someone". My family cried and grieved and remembered and celebrated at the due times and I decided to I set the first anniversary of her passing as the time to try and move on. So my 1st question to you all is that "Is there a right way to go/behave/act when you lose someone" or are the stages of grief a winding rocky road. My 2nd question is "After so long is there anything else we can do apart from watching the passage of time" My counselor suggested that it would take me some time get over my loss because we lived as a family together in the family home for over 50 years when mum passed away. And when a great sadness comes over me I have to ask myself many times "how long". I am genuinely pleased to say that just sitting here and typing has a slow calming effect on me and tempted as I am to just press delete, I feel a greater need to find out from anyone passing how they feel about their loss after more than a year and yes maybe even longer. Any thoughts welcome. For now, goodnight.