that's really worrying
@angelhugs
please contact your GP and Social Worker to let them know about this behaviour ... some meds may help ... or some Respite ... tell them this is a safeguarding issue as you, and your husband, are at risk of harm
and contact the police, so that the incident is logged, as they can make referrals to get more support ... certainly if it happens again call 999 as you must be safe in your own home .. I appreciate the aggression and violence is linked to your husband's dementia, but that does not mean that you have to put up with it ... and I know it's hard to call the police for your own spouse, but it's not right that you are put in a dangerous situation and it's not 'fair' on him to be that worked up
keep a mobile on you at all times, and have a room you can retreat to which has a lock on the door and if possible access to outside, even through a window
if you sense your husband getting worked up, don't engage with him, walk away and leave him be ... please then get help ... you cannot risk being hurt for your own welfare, and you'll no longer be able to care for your husband
yes, it's tough to let family know that you are facing aggression, but how can they support you both if they don't know
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