I am wondering what to do for the best. My OH has been increasingly difficult to get up in the mornings for some weeks, and over Christmas and the New Year we got out of the usual routine with our regular morning carer. Now it is proving very hard for us to get back into it, he simply won't get up for her, and it takes me all my powers of persuasion to get him to agree. Usually I can go out in the morning while she is here, but now If I am not here he will remain in bed. Does it matter? I have accepted that his AZ is taking another dip because of other things, but I have been very reluctant to let him be in bed too much as his mobility is already poor, and he is prone to chest infections. He does seem very tired, bless him and I am concerned I am being too tough in my efforts to keep him reasonably fit. I do also worry that when he sleeps so much, his brain is not getting any stimulation so he will deteriorate faster. Local professionals, who have rarely actually seen him, tell me he should be out of bed as much as possible. Left to do as he wishes he would stay dozing in bed until midday, having drinks but not eating . Then he would be up in his chair in the living room and have breakfast and lunch combined. If the weather allows we go out for an hour or so in the afternoon, but he likes another hour or so in bed before his evening meal at 6pm, and is asking to go to bed again by 8pm. He then usually sleeps quite well, with some restless periods, until about 9am. His general health, blood tests etc are all fine. Hopefully some reading this have similar experience and will share how they handled it please.