Hello everyone,
I would like to know if anyone is having or has had the same problems as I am? As if it isn't distressing enough to have to have to go through seeing someone you love suffer with this awful disease I find I am continually knocking my head off a brick wall when it comes to social services and the NHS!
My father was admitted to hospital just over three weeks ago with a chest infection, he has Alzheimer's disease and was previously at home after a three week stay in a care home. My problem is since his admission to hospital there has been no communication, not for want of trying on my behalf. Unfortunately I can only visit at 6.30 as I work all day, so the only people available to speak are nurses.
In the time he has been in hospital his partner has been allowed to sign a do not resuscitate order, which I am fine with but then again surely as his next of kin and holder of power of attorney It should have been me surely that's what trusting someone to hold power of attorney is all about?
I have visited him in hospital every other night since he was admitted to hospital as his partner and I share days so it gives her time to do her own thing and it means I don't have to travel a 60 mile trip after work everyday.
Tonight I have received a distraught phone call at 9pm from my aunt who visited this afternoon (she's 86) to say that she was told she had to sign a form by 4.30 as they need hospital beds and Dad needs to go into a home! I asked her what she had signed and she doesn't know! she was questioned to find out if she was a family member which she replied yes. she was also told that he had had a stroke when he was first admitted to hospital which was three weeks ago, something that hasn't been reported to myself or his partner! It's to late to ring anywhere now but it will be interesting to find out tomorrow what she has signed and how she was allowed to.
I'm so frustrated with this the very evident lack of care he has received. I'm sick of going into care homes and hospitals to see someone who was such a proud man and was always immaculately dressed who now is unshaved, with scruffy clothes and dirty hair and long nails. what the hell did he and I still pay into the system for? It seems like no one cares at all!
Claire xx
How can this happen!!
Claire x
I would like to know if anyone is having or has had the same problems as I am? As if it isn't distressing enough to have to have to go through seeing someone you love suffer with this awful disease I find I am continually knocking my head off a brick wall when it comes to social services and the NHS!
My father was admitted to hospital just over three weeks ago with a chest infection, he has Alzheimer's disease and was previously at home after a three week stay in a care home. My problem is since his admission to hospital there has been no communication, not for want of trying on my behalf. Unfortunately I can only visit at 6.30 as I work all day, so the only people available to speak are nurses.
In the time he has been in hospital his partner has been allowed to sign a do not resuscitate order, which I am fine with but then again surely as his next of kin and holder of power of attorney It should have been me surely that's what trusting someone to hold power of attorney is all about?
I have visited him in hospital every other night since he was admitted to hospital as his partner and I share days so it gives her time to do her own thing and it means I don't have to travel a 60 mile trip after work everyday.
Tonight I have received a distraught phone call at 9pm from my aunt who visited this afternoon (she's 86) to say that she was told she had to sign a form by 4.30 as they need hospital beds and Dad needs to go into a home! I asked her what she had signed and she doesn't know! she was questioned to find out if she was a family member which she replied yes. she was also told that he had had a stroke when he was first admitted to hospital which was three weeks ago, something that hasn't been reported to myself or his partner! It's to late to ring anywhere now but it will be interesting to find out tomorrow what she has signed and how she was allowed to.
I'm so frustrated with this the very evident lack of care he has received. I'm sick of going into care homes and hospitals to see someone who was such a proud man and was always immaculately dressed who now is unshaved, with scruffy clothes and dirty hair and long nails. what the hell did he and I still pay into the system for? It seems like no one cares at all!
Claire xx
How can this happen!!
Claire x
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