Hello everyone
I've been reading some of the different threads and posts on this forum, until I felt brave enough to post.
My mum was diagnosed with mixed dementia a few weeks ago, but symptoms have been there for well over a year, maybe longer. She had some emergency surgery last autumn, needing a 4 hour operation, and had a long period of confusion afterwards, which we and medical staff put down to anaesthetic. She mostly got over this, but wasn't the same, and it's a sort of relief to have the diagnosis, mixed with anger and grief at the same time. Her own mother had the same type of dementia, so we've seen first hand what this cruel disease can do. Small things are already changing, as is our relationship with her.
Mum is fairly chirpy and calm, knows what's going on and has accepted it, and is aware of her limitations. Siblings and I think we have the balance right at the moment, in terms of doing things for her and letting her remain independent. Most of the time I sound rational, and we are planning things for the short and long term (e.g. Power of Attorney, future care for if/when we can't cope, etc.), but inside I'm crying like a little girl all the time because I feel she's going already!
I'm sorry to bother you all on a nice Sunday evening, just needed to let out a tiny bit of my frustration and sadness!
Xo
I've been reading some of the different threads and posts on this forum, until I felt brave enough to post.
My mum was diagnosed with mixed dementia a few weeks ago, but symptoms have been there for well over a year, maybe longer. She had some emergency surgery last autumn, needing a 4 hour operation, and had a long period of confusion afterwards, which we and medical staff put down to anaesthetic. She mostly got over this, but wasn't the same, and it's a sort of relief to have the diagnosis, mixed with anger and grief at the same time. Her own mother had the same type of dementia, so we've seen first hand what this cruel disease can do. Small things are already changing, as is our relationship with her.
Mum is fairly chirpy and calm, knows what's going on and has accepted it, and is aware of her limitations. Siblings and I think we have the balance right at the moment, in terms of doing things for her and letting her remain independent. Most of the time I sound rational, and we are planning things for the short and long term (e.g. Power of Attorney, future care for if/when we can't cope, etc.), but inside I'm crying like a little girl all the time because I feel she's going already!
I'm sorry to bother you all on a nice Sunday evening, just needed to let out a tiny bit of my frustration and sadness!
Xo