People on this forum talk about the "stages" of dementia. Mum has VaD. I really don't know what stage she is at. Is there a general rule regarding behaviour, physical ability and such? I saw a friend the other day who asked what I had been told about how to deal with Mum when I first began. I realised that actually I hadn't been told anything. It's been trial and error, help from this forum and going on the internet. Who should tell me? I went to a local club for carers of people with dementia. That was very helpful but I haven't been able to go again because I can't go out in the evening unless Mum is in the home for respite. Seems like a lot of trouble to go to just for a (not very wild) night out.