Kazlou, if you have concerns you must raise them and there should be no repercussions on your mum. I have had to raise a number of concerns with mum's home and I must say that on all occasions I was made to feel that they were glad I had raised the issues, and I never felt any reason to think that mum might suffer in any way.
Mum is not in an EMI unit, there are 23 residents, and 2 night carers, both on duty. This seems about the norm for a non-EMI unit. Another home of the same type and size nearby has only 1 active and 1 sleeping on night duty, I can't see how they manage with that. In mum's home the night staff have the responsibility for sorting laundry to be sent to residents next day, so they are not "on the floor" all the time. Mum is a night wanderer and they do have difficulty in dealing with her, and I am waiting for he day when they say they cannot cope with her. Would she then qualify for nursing care? How much is that? Is there a unit in my area that could accommodate her? How would I find out? And what do I do if there isn't such a unit? I dread to think of it, it has taken mum a full year to get used to the care home, a full year! I don't want to go through another year of her telling me it is dreadful, she wants to leave, the care staff are cruel to her, the food is dire, the other residents are mean to her.
Any reassurance gratefully received, probably not the right post.
Margaret