Hi all
Although I have not posted for a while, I log on several times a week as more often than not, other people are seeking advice on issues that are so similar to your own. This forum is a great comfort!!
My Grandma has been in a care home for nearly 2 years now with her dememtia, where her condition has very gradually deteriorated. Although these changes have been extremely distressing, (as you all know too well), most of which I have expected and accepted. However her condition over the last couple of weeks has been something of which I have not been prepared for.
Grandma has always spoken to herself, none of which obviously makes any sense. She'll talk about the Queen coming for dinner, or going to stay at Balmoral. However recently her talking has been less and less. Instead she will talk, but will then mumble or groan in the middle of the conversation to herself. And I would say now that the majority of her speaking is now incoherent mumbling and groaning, with a few coherent words thrown in. I assume that eventually that this will be permanant, but I have no idea.
It's bad enough that this disease robs you of the person, but to think that I may not even hear my Grandma's voice again whilst she sits there as an empty shell is just too much to think about. I have tried to remain positive throughout Grandma's illness - making negatives into positives. I consider my relationship with my Grandma now to be different to the one prior to the onset of dementia, and that has helped me accept her condition - in fact we have had some fun!!!
Ironically, I am finding her speech deterioration harder to deal with, than when I had to accept that she no longer recognised me. Perhaps it's because it's just the last recognisabe part of my Grandma left.
Thanks for listening
Although I have not posted for a while, I log on several times a week as more often than not, other people are seeking advice on issues that are so similar to your own. This forum is a great comfort!!
My Grandma has been in a care home for nearly 2 years now with her dememtia, where her condition has very gradually deteriorated. Although these changes have been extremely distressing, (as you all know too well), most of which I have expected and accepted. However her condition over the last couple of weeks has been something of which I have not been prepared for.
Grandma has always spoken to herself, none of which obviously makes any sense. She'll talk about the Queen coming for dinner, or going to stay at Balmoral. However recently her talking has been less and less. Instead she will talk, but will then mumble or groan in the middle of the conversation to herself. And I would say now that the majority of her speaking is now incoherent mumbling and groaning, with a few coherent words thrown in. I assume that eventually that this will be permanant, but I have no idea.
It's bad enough that this disease robs you of the person, but to think that I may not even hear my Grandma's voice again whilst she sits there as an empty shell is just too much to think about. I have tried to remain positive throughout Grandma's illness - making negatives into positives. I consider my relationship with my Grandma now to be different to the one prior to the onset of dementia, and that has helped me accept her condition - in fact we have had some fun!!!
Ironically, I am finding her speech deterioration harder to deal with, than when I had to accept that she no longer recognised me. Perhaps it's because it's just the last recognisabe part of my Grandma left.
Thanks for listening