I am normally a reader not a poster as I am a very private person but as my OH deteriorates I realise I have no one to talk to about whats happening to us. A colleague gave me a book to read on the SPECAL (Specialised Early Care for Alzheimer's) method for contented dementia. Has anyone heard of this approach or even tried it? Also just some tips I have found useful to me on my journey into the unknown. I have just sold my husbands car and the continuous loop of him keep looking at the car and saying that's his car and he cant understand why he is not allowed to drive has now gone away. I don't know why I kept it so long as I hated driving it. and .... I put everything I could in my name or joint names as I now have to deal with everything on my own. I now wish I had Power of Attorney sorted out as soon as he was diagnosed but I guess I was in denial and just wanted him to get better. I now know he wont and its getting harder.