I have just come across this site and wonder how people would deal with my situation.
I have always been the glue that kept our family together, as much as I could. My brother and I were both adopted in the 60s and our Dad always struggled with being a father and used to abuse us physically and mentally. My brother left home at 16, me at 18.
The childhood upbringing we had has left many mental scars. Our father passed away over a decade ago and it was a relief. Sadly my brother never built a relationship with our Mum, the pain was too much and last year he took his own life.
I am now the sole carer for my elderly Mum who has Alzheimer's. I feel so sad saying this but being with her makes me so upset. She never shed a tear when my brother passed away as she had decided he had left the family and that was that.
She has always lacked empathy and has never been a good Mum, it has always been me taking care of her, but losing my brother has changed me and I feel so angry with her and really want as little to do with her as possible. She always calls me her rock but I really do everything through gritted teeth. Does anyone else have to care for someone who has caused them so much pain?
I have always been the glue that kept our family together, as much as I could. My brother and I were both adopted in the 60s and our Dad always struggled with being a father and used to abuse us physically and mentally. My brother left home at 16, me at 18.
The childhood upbringing we had has left many mental scars. Our father passed away over a decade ago and it was a relief. Sadly my brother never built a relationship with our Mum, the pain was too much and last year he took his own life.
I am now the sole carer for my elderly Mum who has Alzheimer's. I feel so sad saying this but being with her makes me so upset. She never shed a tear when my brother passed away as she had decided he had left the family and that was that.
She has always lacked empathy and has never been a good Mum, it has always been me taking care of her, but losing my brother has changed me and I feel so angry with her and really want as little to do with her as possible. She always calls me her rock but I really do everything through gritted teeth. Does anyone else have to care for someone who has caused them so much pain?