Phew, some updates.
Had (and still have) issues with dad's health. After my last post, we got him out of the hospital and a few days later we went back. It looks like they identified (finally) the issue: pericarditis
He has water around his heart which is why he was so swollen. They took it out, but still, he is not super fit so he might need an operation.
I wanted to take him to private super expensive hospitals and they've refused me due to the covid pandemic. I've never seen this, refusing my money. The medical systems are really collapsing in Europe.
Going back to grandma, she is ok, I might dare to say she is good. The staff changes her routine. They noticed if she has a schedule, she becomes upset, etc, so they are constantly changing it and she does not have time to "stay" and let dementia kick in. For example, they ask her to go down to eat, not in her room, changed the hours when she is having a bath, etc.
Overall things are good with her.
But I want to tell you something, today she brought me the pack of some biscuits I bought her, she cut the paper fantastic and brought it to me so I can buy her next time the same. It might sound stupid, but I had tears in my eyes. How she cut it, etc and remembered something. As I was waiting for dad in front of the hospital, because I wasn't allowed in, an ambulance came with an old lady that had dementia.
The ambulance doctors were talking with the hospital doctors about her and about they have no idea what to do with her. The family called the ambulance, put the old lady in and said they don't care about her, now is the doctors' problem and left.
So I know it's hard for all of us here, but just remember there are people like that out there. And when we think we are not doing enough for our family, remember those ... humans and how much we fight for the good of our loved ones.