Well, finally we had one of those bad days you guys were talking about and warned me.
Arrived earlier from the home care, when grandma came down, she had a bag with all of the pictures, love notes from my SO and her glasses. She handed them to mum and told her to take them home because she is going home soon.
Then she started ten minutes on how if we want her to die, we will still keep her there, if we keep her more than February she will live in a coffin, that her roommate keeps on talking non-stop and annoys her, that we must convince the doctor she must leave. Then asked again for some money, even if we gave her last week.
Then she picked on me, that I have no right to speak, this is a discussion between her and her daughter (my mum). Towards the end she relaxed a bit, but at the end told me to shut up and then she left.
Even I expected this, I did not ... expect it.
My mum can't do it, she freezes every time while everything I say or try to change the subject is brushed away by my grandmother. After the visit, the head nurse told us they will restrict our visits, once at two weeks, because it seems that this doesn't work well with grandma.
I was asking if it would be possible to move her alone, but for the moment they don't have any spare single rooms and does not recommend it to us at all because the two of them are really better since they are together (which is true).
I really have no idea what to do again. It's hard when the other has no idea what is going on and what efforts you are trying to make her feel better. I am annoyed with my mum because she sits there and doesn't do anything, I know it's wrong, but I am annoyed.
That "take me home in my apartment" is killing me because no matter how much I will explain, she will never listen and understand and will always blame me. I think this will become worse and worse.
A bad day. A bad day indeed.