Hi all
My Dad is in respite for a month, out on 27th May (I have posted about this already). He also has iron deficiency anaemia and is having tests for internal bleeding. I saw him yesterday first time in a week and he was really poorly looking, having deteriorated. Very weak and tired, aching all over. he looked terrible. I spoke to his care team at the home who said that he is taking his iron tablets as directed and they are waiting on blood tests to see how he's doing. They reassured me that they have everything in hand and that they would involve a doctor immediately should he deteriorate and that they would let me know asap if there was a problem.
I am stressed out of my mind. Over the past week I have had so many stress symptoms; indigestion, acid reflux, lower abdominal cramps, chest pain, panic attacks, insomnia, aches and pains all over my body and I fainted yesterday (low blood pressure). I can't think straight and can't stop these symptoms. I don't know if I should be seeing my GP or not and whether there is anything else I can do for my Dad. He has a CT scan on 15th May, which I will take him to, but he is so weak he can't walk far so I am concerned about getting him into the hospital. I spoke to his dementia nurse yesterday who has stopped his Donezepil (it can cause internal bleeding) as a precaution and told me to try not to worry so much.
My husband says I'm stressed and that I should calm down. He also says Dad is well taken care of (it's an excellent new care home with a good rating) and that I should take a break from seeing him and worrying about him and rest. He says I should take action when its needed. He's very logical! I am really at the end of the line with all this and I am barely functioning. Three years of caring for both parents (mum died of cancer in June 2014) and I've just imploded. I know I wouldn't be as stressed if I didn't feel so exhausted. Can I have your perspectives please because I know many of you are going through same/similar. What would be the best things to do? Brain is like goo and the headaches and stomach upset are awful.
thank you in advance, Jane xx
My Dad is in respite for a month, out on 27th May (I have posted about this already). He also has iron deficiency anaemia and is having tests for internal bleeding. I saw him yesterday first time in a week and he was really poorly looking, having deteriorated. Very weak and tired, aching all over. he looked terrible. I spoke to his care team at the home who said that he is taking his iron tablets as directed and they are waiting on blood tests to see how he's doing. They reassured me that they have everything in hand and that they would involve a doctor immediately should he deteriorate and that they would let me know asap if there was a problem.
I am stressed out of my mind. Over the past week I have had so many stress symptoms; indigestion, acid reflux, lower abdominal cramps, chest pain, panic attacks, insomnia, aches and pains all over my body and I fainted yesterday (low blood pressure). I can't think straight and can't stop these symptoms. I don't know if I should be seeing my GP or not and whether there is anything else I can do for my Dad. He has a CT scan on 15th May, which I will take him to, but he is so weak he can't walk far so I am concerned about getting him into the hospital. I spoke to his dementia nurse yesterday who has stopped his Donezepil (it can cause internal bleeding) as a precaution and told me to try not to worry so much.
My husband says I'm stressed and that I should calm down. He also says Dad is well taken care of (it's an excellent new care home with a good rating) and that I should take a break from seeing him and worrying about him and rest. He says I should take action when its needed. He's very logical! I am really at the end of the line with all this and I am barely functioning. Three years of caring for both parents (mum died of cancer in June 2014) and I've just imploded. I know I wouldn't be as stressed if I didn't feel so exhausted. Can I have your perspectives please because I know many of you are going through same/similar. What would be the best things to do? Brain is like goo and the headaches and stomach upset are awful.
thank you in advance, Jane xx