My sister and I share the visiting of mum in her NH and as you know from my previous posts mum has been in bed since last September eats very little and looks more like a skeleton just skin and bone. On any visit we may get a blank stare back or nothing at all as she keeps her eyes closed (not sure if she is sleeping ). Mum has not really spoken anything to us for awhile now. When she does try it is just a mumble. I have not seen mum for over a week as our son age 38 had a heart attack so we had to put him first and go to Surrey to look after our 20 month old grandchild. My question is this my sister seems to think my mum is play acting with us when we visit as the carers say she is ok. Is she being hard on my mum. I can not believe that mum would do such a thing. Has any one else had experience of this or is it all part of VD. I do not want to fall out with my sister over this as we will need each other when that final stage comes but on the other hand if I am beating myself up about mum's illness and she is playing us how do I react. Any advice would be very welcome.