My mum is nearly 94 and lives on her own with no help because she has refused offers of support. It's a long story that has been going on since 2015. I believe that she is in the middle stages of Alzheimer's. My sibling runs Mum's home from his home miles away and he visits every three months to clear up Mum's home because she doesn't manage to keep on top of things. I tend to deal with emergencies as I run a business that takes up a lot of my time. Thanks to the help and advice from this forum (which has been a life saver) I have now managed to get Mum's GP involved through liaising with Adult Social Care - who have been very supportive and helpful. I don't think we are really any further forward but the worst case is that the wheels have been put in motion, the best case is that the GP will get involved and visit mum. There have been two triggers this year - mum was found wandering about a month ago and my daughter being shocked by the deterioration in her grandmother. Mum agreed for my brother and me to be part of an LPA to help manage Mum's finances which my brother has taken over but we don't have a Health & Welfare LPA for Mum. This has caused a bit of problem for the GP and Social Care apparently. Mum has made clear on her medical records that she doesn't want me involved in any aspect of her health care - I don't know if this applies to my brother. About two years ago I was very worried about Mum's physical and mental health and, when I was more involved in her care, I asked if it would be possible for a GP to visit Mum to check that she was okay as she would not go to a GP. The Surgery gave me two forms to fill in (one for my brother and one for me) for Mum but she would not sign them and they are still on Mum's dining room table today. Social Care have explained that, as there is no Health & Welfare LPA in place nor any signed forms for the GP's surgery means that Data Protection rules apply. At the moment the GP is considering whether to agree for my brother to visit with the GP (I can't be involved). My brother doesn't know the situation as well as I do (geography - it's difficult for him to visit often) but he has agreed to go with the GP, if necessary, which I am really pleased about. I have made Social Care aware of the situation (as I see it - as i live next door). Mum's health is deteriorating by the month - she can't walk very well, very deaf, can't see too well and very bad memory but she is hanging on because she is terrified of being 'taken into a care home'. We have told her many times that we would prefer her stay where she but just accept some help but she says that she could not bear anyone coming into her home on a regular basis. Mum is very off-hand with me these days because I have not been around as much in the past year to help her as I used to and cannot seem to accept that I work long hours and cannot always be around to support her. If the GP does decide to visit Mum and thinks she needs help how will this work if Mum continues to refuse? I don't think I will be invited to come along when or if the GP visits because Mum doesn't want me involved now. If my brother is invited I suspect that he will not discuss this with me as he will respect Mum's wishes.