I am not sure if this is something anyone else has experienced, but I am getting exceptionally frustrated with the complete lack of support my father is getting from social services. He was diagnosed with vascular dementia about 6-8 months ago and has steadily declined since then. The GP referred him to social services, who came round, gave him a form to fill in for Attendance Allowance (which he didn't understand and then lost) and didn't do anything else as my Dad said he didn't need any help (he does). I followed up with them, got appointment status so I could sign the Attendance Allowance forms and SS organised a carer to come round for half an hour a day. Dad now needs more support and we have been trying to get a second carer visit. SS, however, start every conversation with "he's self-funding isn't he?" and then go on to tell me all they things they can't do and he can't have. The have told me the agency that provide his carers have no capacity to offer a second visit each day, but that just doesn't make sense. If there is no capacity, how do they take on new clients or provide emergency or respite care? I live 2 1/2 hours away. My sister lives in Australia. I'm thinking of raising a complaint about the social worker, who seems to be suffering from some sort of inverse snobbery because Dad lives in quite a large house and can afford to pay for his care. Or is it because I haven't given up my job to move home to do everything for myself? I'm thinking of asking next time what the problem is - is it us or are all social workers useless and unpleasant?