Hi there Some of you may remember that the psychiatrist and social worker turned up at our house earlier this month, were very aggressive with the carer, told my 84 year old frail mother with dementia: "Your daughter wants to sell the house and put you in a home." Asked her if she wanted me to look after her money and basically left her in a right state. I have lodged a formal complaint with the overarching health authority about this instance and also asked the manager of the memory clinic not to send people to the house without the courtesy of letting us know. Despite this, the social worker who was part of the delegation earlier this month turned up this week with a colleague. The carer bumped into them as they were leaving the house. My mother was in floods of tears. The social worker had apparently told her she was "no longer safe in the house with me". I am in the process of getting legal advice about how possible it is to sell the house or whether my son and I can just leave (although as I pay the mortgage I'm really not sure how this can work, hence the legal advice) but what on earth do I do about these accusations of both incipient violence and financial impropriety? I wouldn't mind so much but I've been telling social services and the memory clinic for YEARS that I simply cannot cope and now my son is so very ill I really cannot mange an unwell teen and an unwell octogenarian mother.