I have posted on here a few times about my 93 year old Mum who has undiagnosed dementia. She is getting steadily worse but refuses help and has only recently agreed to POA which is now being drawn up. However, a couple of days ago when visiting her I realised that she had badly soiled herself, her bedding, her carpet and the whole bathroom. She had made a slight effort to clean up but very little and when I asked her about it she denied all knowledge of anything having happened. This was the last straw for me, I'm afraid as she hasn't been showering, changing her clothes etc etc though maintains that she has and is 'fine'. I phoned the social work dept who are sending someone to visit her tomorrow to do an assessment and to offer help. They have also contacted her GP who is supposed to, apparently, regularly send a community nurse to check on the very elderly - no-one has ever been to visit her before. She also is very hard of hearing and has AMD which is being treated. I suspect that tomorrow she will once again refuse help and may not be considered mentally competent to agree to POA. She is so frail and bewildered that I just don't know what to do and feel unable to cope much longer. Does anyone have advice?