Hi
I wondered if anyone could help. My dad is my moms carer, my mom is very bad now, my dad has to do everything for her, washing dressing, toileting etc. We've been very concerned for my dad the last few months and last week things got a lot worse, we are really scared he's on the verge of a breakdown, he's very low and keeps saying he cant go on anymore. Last Friday we made the heart breaking decision between my dad, sister, brother and myself the we were going to have to look down the care home path. I called the council and I spoke to a lovely man, who I explained everything to, he was very concerned about my dad and contacted the social workers as an urgent case. When the social worker called me she was very oh well about the whole thing, I explained about my moms increasing aggression and her response was well take her to GP. Anyway my brother managed to get hold of her yesterday as we hadn't heard anything and she said a social worker hadn't even been assigned to my mom yet even though its classed as urgent. Is this normal the lack of action? We haven't really had to deal with them before so don't really know what to expect. Can I ask how it works, will they tell us where's available and we have to chose from that? My mom currently goes to a day centre and they also have a residential home but they have no vacancies, ideally my dad would like there as its really close. Can we go on a waiting list for somewhere or just pick whats available? Sorry for the many questions but we really don't know. We are all beyond heart broken, we were desperately hoping this wouldn't have to come but i'm scared i'll loose my dad as well if we don't. I cant seem to stop crying at the thought of my mom in a home, I don't know what to do.
I wondered if anyone could help. My dad is my moms carer, my mom is very bad now, my dad has to do everything for her, washing dressing, toileting etc. We've been very concerned for my dad the last few months and last week things got a lot worse, we are really scared he's on the verge of a breakdown, he's very low and keeps saying he cant go on anymore. Last Friday we made the heart breaking decision between my dad, sister, brother and myself the we were going to have to look down the care home path. I called the council and I spoke to a lovely man, who I explained everything to, he was very concerned about my dad and contacted the social workers as an urgent case. When the social worker called me she was very oh well about the whole thing, I explained about my moms increasing aggression and her response was well take her to GP. Anyway my brother managed to get hold of her yesterday as we hadn't heard anything and she said a social worker hadn't even been assigned to my mom yet even though its classed as urgent. Is this normal the lack of action? We haven't really had to deal with them before so don't really know what to expect. Can I ask how it works, will they tell us where's available and we have to chose from that? My mom currently goes to a day centre and they also have a residential home but they have no vacancies, ideally my dad would like there as its really close. Can we go on a waiting list for somewhere or just pick whats available? Sorry for the many questions but we really don't know. We are all beyond heart broken, we were desperately hoping this wouldn't have to come but i'm scared i'll loose my dad as well if we don't. I cant seem to stop crying at the thought of my mom in a home, I don't know what to do.