Quick recap: Mum is 90 & has mildish dementia ( good sometimes worse others) & heart failure. She has lived with me for the last 15 years. She is currently in week 2 of hospital admission. Medically the doctors have done all they can. The NHS physio/ OT assessment is that Mum is too weak to manage without 24 hour supervision & that as she is only going to get frailer residential care is the best option. Both Mum & I agree.
Just had a phone conversation with social services who will carry out an assessment tomorrow. They are talking about putting a care package in place so mum can come home. I pointed out that the recommendation was for residential care. The response was let’s discuss this tomorrow.
I can no longer provide the level of care Mum needs & deserves. Mum has always accepted that when the time came a care home would be the best option.
Mum is over the savings limit but she could only self finance for a few months.
I realise it’s extreme but can I refuse to continue caring for her? A package of 4 visits would be totally inadequate. She is at high risk of falls especially at night & falls monitoring has never worked for us.
Secondly, I assume we need to find a home that the council would agree to fund once mum reaches the lower limit of savings as I wouldn’t want to move Mum more than once.
Does anyone have any thoughts that might help me ahead of tomorrow’s meeting?
Just had a phone conversation with social services who will carry out an assessment tomorrow. They are talking about putting a care package in place so mum can come home. I pointed out that the recommendation was for residential care. The response was let’s discuss this tomorrow.
I can no longer provide the level of care Mum needs & deserves. Mum has always accepted that when the time came a care home would be the best option.
Mum is over the savings limit but she could only self finance for a few months.
I realise it’s extreme but can I refuse to continue caring for her? A package of 4 visits would be totally inadequate. She is at high risk of falls especially at night & falls monitoring has never worked for us.
Secondly, I assume we need to find a home that the council would agree to fund once mum reaches the lower limit of savings as I wouldn’t want to move Mum more than once.
Does anyone have any thoughts that might help me ahead of tomorrow’s meeting?