Mum has been in respite for 4 weeks although most of that was spent in hospital (due to cellulitis and sepsis and urine infection, her dementia has gone down hill and so has her health. Dad was diagnosed with bladder cancer and up until 5 weeks ago was looking after her at home. He also has COPD and carcinomas on his leg which are being treated as and when. His health has deteriorated during the last 5 weeks as well as mums. I am having a review on Wednesday with Social services to see about mum coming home but quite frankly there is no way dad can now look after her. What I am afraid of is they will suggest a home package which is really not ideal as it still leaves periods where he is at home with her alone. Can anyone give me advice on how to prepare for this meeting and has anyone else been in a similar situation. dad has accepted that he cannot look after her and wants her to stay in this home. If she goes home we will be in the same situation of him being rushed into hospital or her falling etc in the near future which will leave her disoriented once again. They are both in their 80s.