So mum has now been in hospital for 4 weeks following her kidney failure when we thought for two days we were going to lose her. Life since has been a continuing nightmare. They've stabilised her kidneys and heart(she has heart failure too) but she is still retaining much more fluid than before in her stomach so her mobility is worse and so too is her dementia. She's been off her Menantane for the past 4 weeks as apparently its bad for her kidneys. I've been driving the 1.5 hrs every 2-3 days now to see her back and forth as so too have my siblings and I've been told that mum has been referred to SS for an assessment to determine what happens next but this has already taken 10 days. My question is if the family agree(as we do)that mum now needs to go into a care home and she's self funding why do we have to wait for this assessment?
We don't really want mum to be moved into an assessment bed as this happened to my dad and he was there for 6 weeks. Mum will have been in hospital, then the assessment centre wherever that is and then she will have to be moved to the final care home. All we want to know is whether she needs nursing care or not as this will determine whether we can move her in with dad to a care home as opposed to a nursing home. Can the hospital not tell us that? I suppose I'm asking 'can we cut out the middle man?' and just get on with things. I've been told that she could be moved even further away from her family than she is now if she's assessed. Does she have to be formerly assessed in this way? Thanks for reading!
We don't really want mum to be moved into an assessment bed as this happened to my dad and he was there for 6 weeks. Mum will have been in hospital, then the assessment centre wherever that is and then she will have to be moved to the final care home. All we want to know is whether she needs nursing care or not as this will determine whether we can move her in with dad to a care home as opposed to a nursing home. Can the hospital not tell us that? I suppose I'm asking 'can we cut out the middle man?' and just get on with things. I've been told that she could be moved even further away from her family than she is now if she's assessed. Does she have to be formerly assessed in this way? Thanks for reading!