Feeling a little low today. Mum has dementia which she has had since her early 60s. Now 70 and the deterioration is now quite rapid. i'm finding the grief of losing my Mum almost unbearable at the moment. We had a really close relationship. Lots of shopping trips, coffee, memories shared. All that is gone and she now does not really know who I am. She knows my name but has no idea of who I am in relation to her. My Dad thinks she is confusing me with someone else as she has now taken quite a dislike to me, on one occasion talking to her invisible 'friends' that she 'can't stand that woman' clearly referring to me. She is stroppy and sometimes downright unkind to me. I try to see it for what it is ie the illness, not her, but this is so hard now it is personal. My husband tells me to ignore it which I know I should but it is hard to be met with this. I have vey young children who also have felt the lash of her tongue and been left in tears. It's just so hard as it is not her. How do I keep a sense of perspective in these circumstances? Will this be a phase that will pass?