Sorry for this rant but I feel I need to offload as I am becoming increasingly frustrated with my mother lately.
Just when I thought we were finally getting home care for my mother, it has been delayed further to the state of her flat. The Home carer who visited 2 weeks ago reported there was flies in her flat, mouse droppings in the kitchen cupboards and out of date food lying around in the kitchen which has not been put back in the fridge. The home visit was suspended due to the risk it may caused to the health and safety to the carer. The manager of the Home care company said she has suspended the home visits until the flat have been completely cleared out. However she did not seem concerned about the fact me and my partner had to clean out her kitchen 2 weeks prior the suspended home visits. So the past few weeks we have been making endless phone calls, emails and meeting with the Older Persons Teams. The person came to visit and assessed my mother and the state of her flat. She has been very good in providing information for cleaners, funding. Really pushing for help for her.
This week we hired 2 professional cleaners to come and clean my mother's flat but my mother needs to be out of the flat while they clean it. We were recommended a respite centre where my mother could stay for 1 or 2 days and can come back when it is ready. Yesterday we took my mother to visit the respite Centre but she did not seem impressed about it. She said she will think about it. Today I asked her what she thought of it but she said she did not want to go even if it is for 1 day. Again I phoned her up and asked if she would like to stay in a local hotel in the town centre while the flat is being cleaned out but she said she doesn't want to leave her flat. So this make this tricky as there is no one we know will take her out and stay in their home. At our house it will be difficult as the children will off school on holiday and I will be at work for most part of the day. My partner looks after them while I am at work. So we can't take my mum out or clean the flat ourselves. Our hands are tied. I don't think my mother appreciates this I have a child with Autism and my mother cannot cope with his behaviour. Everytime she come and visits us she doesn't stay long and wants to go home. The person from the Social Services have agreed to let a carer take my mother out for half a day while her flat is being clean and again on another day. Once the flat is cleaned my mother will have an carer and an cleaner each day a week but we have to fill in forms to get funding for her care. Me and my partner feel so overwhelmed by the endless supply of information. We are suffering from information overload!!!
There is so much to do in a short space of time. I feel frustrated at my mum unwillingness to be flexible and her apparent stubbornness. Trying to sort out my mother problems with her flat, medication and money is slowing overtaking our lives. Me and my partner rarely spend a day together without worrying about her. My children are important and I am striving to strike a balance between them. I feel I am becoming invisible. its frustrating meeting with all the professionals as they dont provide Sign Language Interpreters and my partner have to sign for me and ring up the people concerned for me as they don't always provide email or text numbers. The local branch of Age Uk in my area is useless. I dread every visit to my mother as I don't know what problem or mood she will be in. sorry for moaning but I hope you all will be bear with me.
Just when I thought we were finally getting home care for my mother, it has been delayed further to the state of her flat. The Home carer who visited 2 weeks ago reported there was flies in her flat, mouse droppings in the kitchen cupboards and out of date food lying around in the kitchen which has not been put back in the fridge. The home visit was suspended due to the risk it may caused to the health and safety to the carer. The manager of the Home care company said she has suspended the home visits until the flat have been completely cleared out. However she did not seem concerned about the fact me and my partner had to clean out her kitchen 2 weeks prior the suspended home visits. So the past few weeks we have been making endless phone calls, emails and meeting with the Older Persons Teams. The person came to visit and assessed my mother and the state of her flat. She has been very good in providing information for cleaners, funding. Really pushing for help for her.
This week we hired 2 professional cleaners to come and clean my mother's flat but my mother needs to be out of the flat while they clean it. We were recommended a respite centre where my mother could stay for 1 or 2 days and can come back when it is ready. Yesterday we took my mother to visit the respite Centre but she did not seem impressed about it. She said she will think about it. Today I asked her what she thought of it but she said she did not want to go even if it is for 1 day. Again I phoned her up and asked if she would like to stay in a local hotel in the town centre while the flat is being cleaned out but she said she doesn't want to leave her flat. So this make this tricky as there is no one we know will take her out and stay in their home. At our house it will be difficult as the children will off school on holiday and I will be at work for most part of the day. My partner looks after them while I am at work. So we can't take my mum out or clean the flat ourselves. Our hands are tied. I don't think my mother appreciates this I have a child with Autism and my mother cannot cope with his behaviour. Everytime she come and visits us she doesn't stay long and wants to go home. The person from the Social Services have agreed to let a carer take my mother out for half a day while her flat is being clean and again on another day. Once the flat is cleaned my mother will have an carer and an cleaner each day a week but we have to fill in forms to get funding for her care. Me and my partner feel so overwhelmed by the endless supply of information. We are suffering from information overload!!!
There is so much to do in a short space of time. I feel frustrated at my mum unwillingness to be flexible and her apparent stubbornness. Trying to sort out my mother problems with her flat, medication and money is slowing overtaking our lives. Me and my partner rarely spend a day together without worrying about her. My children are important and I am striving to strike a balance between them. I feel I am becoming invisible. its frustrating meeting with all the professionals as they dont provide Sign Language Interpreters and my partner have to sign for me and ring up the people concerned for me as they don't always provide email or text numbers. The local branch of Age Uk in my area is useless. I dread every visit to my mother as I don't know what problem or mood she will be in. sorry for moaning but I hope you all will be bear with me.
