Hi christmas
sorry, me again
families are so individual aren't they, and each seems to operate in it's own particular way
everyone thinks my dad is so lucky because both his daughters are active in his care - and he is - but there's lots of history and an undercurrent that means the situation is far from how it appears (his grown up grandsons never go to see him, not even at Christmas) - however dad is oblivious and he is cared for, which is all that matters
so I'm saddened that your daughter just doesn't get your situation - yet I can't bring myself to speak harshly of her, we're all human and have our failings, and mostly our parents seem to love us regardless, thank goodness
personally, I'd be very tempted to say no to having her dog for a week, which is a long time (you don't say whether you agreed or not) AND explain to her why it's just no longer possible, sadly, in view of how much of your time and energy your husband needs now - I'm not suggesting this as tit-for-tat, but I do believe she must start to appreciate your situation, and sometimes that word 'no' works well to make a daughter stop and think
10 minutes away is no distance - and if I were to be blunt, I'd agree it's disappointing that she doesn't just pop in each week - I'd also be tempted to ask her more often for some help, she may then begin to realise how much you would appreciate her support - sorry, being a bit naughty to suggest that
best wishes