Hi ive followed your posts this morning and just wanted to say what an amazing person you are, your dad would be so proud to have someone like you fighting for him even after he has passed you still found the strength to keep going. My nan is at the end stage now, me and my mom on constant stand by waiting for the phone to ring. She has pneumonia again for about the 6th time in a year, aspiration twice, this time she doesnt seem to be recovering from it, over a month now and growing weaker by the day but her determination not to give up just yet is keeping her going but also destroying me and my mom in the process. The nursing home are useless and feel like we are constantly battling with them to make sure my 83 year old nan isnt suffering in pain and is treated with the respect and compassion she deserves. It amazes me how these people can become carers, no qualifications, no dementia training and blatantly lie and say my nan is fine, yet different when we arrive to see her slumped in bed or a cold dinner placed infront of her and clearly dehydrated. 2falls on sunday found crawling out of her room like an animal searching for comfort because she is too weak to stand and walk. It is truly heartbreaking and soul destroying. To have attitude from the people who are meant to be looking after her asif how dare we ask questions about our own relative and feeling so helpless i could walk outside now and scream and scream. I know we probably have a long road ahead, its now going into the 3rd year since it all started over night with this vascula dementia and my grandad passed away in the middle of it all. Him at 1end of the hospital and my nan the other. Sending you lots of love and hugs at this sad time but also alot of respect that atleast your dad had you fighting for him and somewhere in there he hopefully knew all of this. You should be very proud of yourself if only everyone could be as caring towards their relatives as you. Some of the poor residents at my nans place have nothing and noone it breaks my heart for them i wish i could take them all home and give them comfort and happiness til the end of their days. My heart will break the day my nan passes. Although i have my mom, my nan is my best friend and her and my grandad were like 2nd parents to me and i will keep fighting for her til the end x